in summary- he's an arrogant, selfish, undermining, twat.
before pregnancy we were perfect. loved being around one another, always socialised together, were best friends.
DD was planned and we had a nice pregnancy. he was still sociable (but we could afford it) and i loved my bump. my friends had babies so we knew this was the right path for us.
since birth he's been unbearable. i bf for 2 months and he hated every moment, was unsupportive, controlling and his mother stuck her nose in with jabs and they used gang up on me. apparently i didn't bf 'right'.
it got so bad i moved back into my parents annix with DD for 2 months. we considered us separated and he took socialising and partying to a new level. money burns a hole in DHs pocket and he spent more than we could afford. really that is the mean reason i came home- to save the situation. id finished bfing and he and i were great for about 2 month. but really that's because i was in control.
the past month has been unbearable. he looks at me like filth, underminds my ability to parent, demands to be in charge even though it took him an hour and a half to get her to bed when i can do it in 15- how hard is it to cuddle and read a story?!
to make matters worse ive found out he's been using a dummy with her behind my back. im on mat leave and he's working full time but apparently is necessary.. well ive never used one?!
this morning she's sleepy as slept AWFUL last night and so she and i were in my bed cuddling silently and she was basically asleep when he swoops in with the shakers and ruins everything! she's now screaming and he's shut them in one of our living rooms. put the TV on loud and i can't get in.
i hate him. i physically hate him. i can't do anymore. we have sex regularly and if not sex then a BJ every night. i couldn't do more for him. I'm not argumentative i just cry. and yet i feel so hated by him. he underminds everything i do and yet my baby is so happy and content when she's with me.
am i unreasonable? should i be grateful that he wants to be involved? or is he being too controlling? i feel like im just the daytime babysitter for him. yet she's moody when she's with him. we used to be perfect. i don't know where to go from here..
AIBU?
to hate my DH
minimommymary · 16/11/2014 10:40
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she's now screaming and he's shut them in one of our living rooms. put the TV on loud and i can't get in.
Op...do you mean he's locked himself and your dd in the living room?
You must leave 
I think op means he locked the shakers in one of the living rooms?
OP you need to leave, he sounds like an abusive control freak with no respect or love for you or your dd. It will only escalate and get worse. Please get somewhere safe and never go back
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He's abusing you and your baby by the sounds of it.. he's locked you away from her. 
Go upstairs and pack some bags.. ring your parents and ask them for help getting you out today and if you have to ring the police and ask them for help getting you and your child out.
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