12 yr old twins DSs (Yr8) are driving me nuts wrt getting them to and from school and I have had enough. They don't care what time it is, they will not get dressed without me shouting, ditto brush teeth, hair, put shoes on etc. We are often running late due to this and if we leave after a certain time window, traffic is mayhem and it can take 30mins to do a 3 mile journey similarly on the way back. They have to be dropped at school first due to start times and I then have to double back to get DC4 who has just started Reception to school at a primary 5 mins away from home. I am getting him to school late due to the DTS's complete disinterest in getting themselves ready to leave on time. Last week I dropped them off after I dropped off DC4 and they were 30 mins late for school. They got a detention which I knew they would get but they really don't give a flying fuck!
This was an issue all through Yr7 but I did not have DC4 to get to school then!
Similarly with picking them up, where we will agree a time for me to pick them up as they do clubs after school, when I get there they will not be waiting for me and I will be sitting in the car for up to 30 mins waiting for them to deign to come out while they ignore my texts and calls. I have also had to resort to getting the office staff to help me trawl around the school looking for them when I have had appointments I needed to get to !
I am hoping to go back to work in the New Year after finding a job and getting DC 4 settled into the after school club and will not be around to wait for them and I seriously doubt their ability to get themselves to current school on time.
Outstanding school, which they are both happy at and doing well at now DTS2 is getting the support he needs, is 3 miles away with only one direct bus service in the AM and PM which DSs have no chance of getting given their current time timekeeping. Walking/cycling is dicey as main road is very busy and DTS2 has learning difficulties and I worry that he may take risks which will endanger him. It is a 45 minute walk and no other kids from our area walk that way as very few got into the school.
Inadequate school is less than a mile away. 15 min walk. Safe to walk/cycle and hordes of DC will be walking the same way. New Head teacher is making great strides to turn the school around but the school has always been a 'problem' school albeit in the more 'affluent' side to town. DD1 attended and got on OK but a desire to learn was not really fostered in her and she did badly in her GCSEs although she's now flying through her college course.
I am of a mind to move them to the crap school after Christmas and tell them that they will be totally responsible for getting themselves to and from school from that point on. The stress in the morning is unbelievable and after shouting all morning, I feel like shit all day. I want them to leave the house happy in the morning but they will just not cooperate!
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To move DCs from an 'Outstanding' school to an 'Inadequate' one?
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UpInTheAirAgain · 15/11/2014 22:16
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