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to not babysit niece over Christmas

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blingblingbling Sat 15-Nov-14 14:08:08

Hi mumsnetters, newbie here lol. I have been asked by SIL to take her daughter Christmas day, as my bro and her are going away. I refused as its my daughters first christmas. Andwant to enjoy it with her anf my DH. Her daughter is very clingy and prone to tantrums. I refused in a very polite way, saying that its our first christmas as a family and I want to spend it with my DH and baby. My SIL is now saying that I am abandoning my niece because I havea child of my own now. That is not the case. AIBU to not want to babysit.

luckynumbereleven Sat 15-Nov-14 14:09:46

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KillmeNow Sat 15-Nov-14 14:09:52

Well the poor child is being abandoned - but not by you.

How old is she ?

PuppyMonkey Sat 15-Nov-14 14:09:57

Shame on you abandoning her child grin

WalkingInMemphis Sat 15-Nov-14 14:09:59

Where are they going on Christmas Day without their dd?

Writerwannabe83 Sat 15-Nov-14 14:11:22

So if you don't have her who will she spending Christmas with??

Personally I do think YABU but that's because I have a really, really adorable niece who I love the bones of and would find it brilliant to have her on Christmas Day grin

LadyLuck10 Sat 15-Nov-14 14:11:27

I would ask her if she is sure that you are the one abandoning the child, her own childconfused

Stealthpolarbear Sat 15-Nov-14 14:11:54

So they're piling on the guilt that you don't want to spend the day with your niece, their daughter? Do they not see the irony?

SecretRed Sat 15-Nov-14 14:12:39

Bloody hell poor little girl. Very weird not to want to spend xmas with your child. Where are they going?

blingblingbling Sat 15-Nov-14 14:13:12

She's 3, and my SIL and bro are going to a christmas party, no kids allowed. I couldn't imagine leaving my daughter with someone else christmas day, but this is my SIL all out lol.

Stealthpolarbear Sat 15-Nov-14 14:14:32

Presumably your brother is doing it too? Everyone is very down on the mother rightly so, but I think the child's dad has an equal part to play

SwearySwearyQuiteContrary Sat 15-Nov-14 14:14:48

Not. Your. Problem.
Your only problem is having a twat for a SIL.

badgerknowsbest Sat 15-Nov-14 14:14:58

If they both had to work Christmas Day, but to go away? Where could a couple plan to go on Christmas Day that doesn't involve their child shock

blingblingbling Sat 15-Nov-14 14:15:27

Dont get me wrong, I love my niece to bits. But I just wanr to spend time with my dd and DH that day.

blingblingbling Sat 15-Nov-14 14:17:56

Yes, I agree. My bro has a part to play in this too.

WalkingInMemphis Sat 15-Nov-14 14:18:29

I wouldn't be able to turn her away because God Knows who she'll get dumped with otherwise, by the sound of it.

I'd find it hard not to tell SIL and DB what a pair of selfish, self-centred, unfit, thoughtless arseholes they were though.

FishWithABicycle Sat 15-Nov-14 14:18:35

Crikey YANBU - it's your SIL and DBro who are abandoning this child, not you. If you are a parent invited to a kids-not-allowed party on Christmas day YOU SAY NO!!!

Janethegirl Sat 15-Nov-14 14:21:11

Your poor niece having such twats as parents. I'd be tempted to have her to avoid her being dumped somewhere less suitable though.

blingblingbling Sat 15-Nov-14 14:21:38

My SIL has told me if I dont babysit, she and my bro cant go to the party.

Gruntfuttock Sat 15-Nov-14 14:22:42

"My SIL is now saying that I am abandoning my niece"

Un-fucking-believable! I hope you told her that it was her and her husband who were abandoning their own daughter.

ApocalypseThen Sat 15-Nov-14 14:24:16

Well that's fine then, they miss the party. No problem.

Nomama Sat 15-Nov-14 14:26:36

Oh dear, so they miss a party. Never mind, problem solved!

LadyLuck10 Sat 15-Nov-14 14:26:50

They should not be parents in the first place if a party is priority over leaving their child on Xmas day. That's disgraceful. What does your db have to say for this?? How old are they?

PurpleCrazyHorse Sat 15-Nov-14 14:27:05

Not your problem. Although sad for your niece, I'd still say no. If you back down now they'll know they just need to pull your heart strings and you'll be babysitting her all the time regardless of convenience.

passmethewineplease Sat 15-Nov-14 14:30:11

YANBU. They are. A lot.

Poor niece though.

Boohoo they don't get to go to the party. Try spending their Christmas with their three year old daughter!

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