To hate my neighbours?

[avocadotoast]

As if it's not enough to hear them shouting and bawling every morning as they get the kids ready for school, last night they roll in shitfaced at 4am and start shouting and carrying on (the kids weren't there, so at least that's something).

It pisses me off so much because I don't understand how you can live in a terraced house and not appreciate how much noise carries. I think I can count on one hand the number of lie ins I've had on a weekend since we moved in because I'm always woken up at half 7 (or earlier) by them and their kids carrying on.

(In fairness, I know it's not the kids' fault, because they're bound to wake up early. The parents don't seem to do anything to stop them stomping and screaming though...except shouting back at them to shut up and get out.)

Part of me wants to go and say something about last night, but then it's only the second time it's happened in the few months we've lived here, so part of me just wants to let it go. If it was just this I wouldn't care so much, but coupled with every single morning... I just want my sleep back!

[Purplepoodle]

Yabu, you live in a terrace. That's how it is. My kids are up at 6 every morning. I try to keep them quiet but by 7 they are bouncing. Getting ready for school can be a pain and noisy. If my neighbour came over I'd apologise but nothing would change

[Purplepoodle]

Buy some ear plugs!

[avocadotoast]

It's not so much the getting up for school that bothers me (it did used to be much worse, real screaming and swearing, horrible stuff to hear, but that has got better now). It's the coming in at 4 and shouting that bothers me more I think.

[EatDessertFirst]

YABU. Thats terrace living I'm afraid! I have early rising DC and elderly neighbours. Elderly neighbours have very barky dogs. We aren't about all day but before school and early evening can be chaotic. It all cancels out.
If you are precious about lie-ins, ear plugs are a must for you.

[Gillian1980]

I disagree with previous posters; I don't think this is just "terrace living".

I've lived in city centre terraces for 15 years, surrounded by families, students, pets etc etc but the vast majority of the time people have respected one another and not been too noisy.

The OP has acknowledged that kids will be up early and making noise but that it's the parents screaming and shouting back that is a problem. Likewise, it's the parents stumbling in at 4am without trying to be quiet that's a problem.

Yes, there will be some noise but yanbu to expect there to be a reasonable level where that should stop.

[ILovePud]

Some noise is inevitable but your neighbours sound inconsiderate too. I don't know if speaking to them is going to change that though I'm afraid.

[pilates]

YANBU

Is moving an option?

I would be careful about complaining too much as you would have to disclose this if, and when you come to sell, but from what you have described it doesn't sound as if it would make a difference anyway. I feel sorry for you.

[poolomoomon]

The 4 am shenanigans are pretty out of order but as a one off I'd let it slide. The noise from the children is to be expected IMO. Councils don't even touch noise from children because it's normal household noise much like washing machines and hoovers. They can't help the time their kids wake up, I'm sure they would rather it were later too...

If it bothers you that much buy ear plugs.

[cookoos]

no! yanbu!! we are selling up because of this, we put it on the market today, so unfair!! next door have boy/girl young teens in a 2bed rented terrace (thought brother & sister werent allowed to share rooms in their teens) and theyre screaming/shouting/banging constantly, can hear it over our TV, so depressing. i dont feel i should sit in my own home which we worked hard to get a deposit for with fucking earplugs in because next door are pig ignorant!

[cookoos]

iv lived in a terrace all my life btw and my parents dont have this problem as they dont have vile neighbours!

[DillyDallyDaydreamer]

I live in a terrace but over an ally I have the most patient nice neighbours on our non alley side they are saints. although we try to be quite I know we must be quite noisy in comparison to them (gamer men who house share)they sometimes have friends over to watch film and we hear them laughing. Other side family with kids similar age we sometimes hear them putting them to bed or baby crying in night similar noise to us.

[sliceofsoup]

YANBU.

We live in a terrace and I find myself constantly telling the DCs to stop stomping around. At night we are always aware of not slamming the front door etc.

One side are the same and we very rarely hear any noise from them.

The other side have a tiled floor in their kitchen and really heavy chairs, and they seem to spend all day every day scraping the chairs. I can hear it right at the other side of the house (quite a large terrace) and it really is constant. I know its normal noise but I couldn't cope with that noise in my own house, I don't get how it doesn't bother them.

And they let their dog out at 6am every morning and it barks continuously until they leave for the school run at 8.45.

thought brother & sister werent allowed to share rooms in their teens

Erm, that's only for working out Housing benefit allowance. Its not law.

[avocadotoast]

Nah, we can't move, we bought and moved in in July.

I really don't think speaking to her would help either though, I think she would just tell me to fuck off tbh. Just wanted a bit of a rant!

[avocadotoast]

Oh, and I have got ear plugs (good ones too) which blocks out a lot of the drunken yelling, but not all of it. Total pain in the arse.

[LadySybilLikesCake]

I live in a terrace. We rarely hear one side, just a bit of music outside now and again, the other side make up for it though. It's very rare that I can wake up by myself (due to their noise), I can't sit outside in the summer (due to their noise) and I've just booked a holiday for New Year's Eve as I work from home and got into serious problems at work last year because I couldn't concentrate (due to their noise which went on from 8pm until 3am, and was so bad we physically felt sick). It was so bad I'm now working for someone else! A little noise from children is to be expected, but some neighbours take noise to a whole new level

Your neighbours are selfish twunts who do't realise (or give a shite) that there are sleeping people next door. Is your house rented? If not, I'd sound proof the bedroom so at least you can get a good nights sleep.

[MrsItsNoworNotatAll]

Yanbu is to be expected when there is kids about. I will not tolerate screaming and stomping about from them as it gets on my wick let alone anyone elses. We're on the end of a terrace and my neighbour adjoining works away a lot so I don't worry too much about disturbing her. I feel sorry for her though as she's sandwiched between us a very noisy family the other side of her. Kid you not we can hear them and they are next door but one. That's how paper thin the walls are.

[MrsItsNoworNotatAll]

but it is to be expected

[JoffreyBaratheon]

I live in a semi detached and for 13 years never heard my neighbour once. I thought we had great walls, or maybe noise insulation. Then bedroom tax happened just as her business dried up, and she ended up having to move.

Council replaced her with the neighbours from hell. From day 1 we realised we had only never heard the neighbour in 13 years because... she was considerate and quiet. I was mortified to think how much noise my own kids made when they were little. The year I moved in, I had 5 kids aged 11 and under! She never once complained so I had always assumed the noise insulation was good. In fact it was non existent.

I wouldn't mind normal noise - kids crying etc but we get domestic violence, shouting, abuse, abuse screamed at the two toddlers - really sinister and loud stuff. They sometimes go out all day leaving their neglected labrador in the house. It doesn't bark it literally howls. All day. Til they return shrieking abuse at it.

If I owned this house it would have had a For Sale sign up months ago.

I look back now at 13 years of living here happily and naively thinking the houses had sound insulation or something, and feel rather sad. These people are on the end so we are their only neighbours as well. So the other neighbours can only back us up if there's a problem in the garden (they swear and shout out there too). All the other neighbours have told us they feel sorry for us. If we left, the council would replace us with thugs as well, presumably and then the whole community is broken up as everyone else would move out. We have always all said we are never moving - everyone who lives here loves it. One nightmare family and a whole community risks being lost.