I seem to come across a lot of people that basically want to treat others as they wish, and if you stand up to them in an assertive but not aggressive way, or refuse to do as they demand, they hate it!
I have had two friends falling out with me in the past few years when I refused to do as they say. The first friend always behaved in a Madam-ish way, and kept asking me each week to drop her DD home from brownies when I collected my DD, even though it was out of my way and she had her own car (she just wanted to start drinking wine early and not have to drive to pick up her DD). One week when I said that it wouldn't be possible for me to pick her DD up as I needed to be home quickly that night as DH was going out, she had a complete tantrum, screeched at me, called me several names and slammed the phone down on me!
Another friend fell out with me a few months ago because I wouldn't go along with changes to plans that she insisted on making. She asked if I wanted to go the park with our DSs. She then decided that she was going to see another friend at the planned time we were going to meet at the park, and phoned me to say that she'd have to see me later than planned, and we could meet at her house instead. It didn't suit me to meet her later than planned, and also I didn't want to go to her house as it is much further than the park and whenever I went there she would just carry on with housework and having long chats on her phone, so I'd sit there like a lemon. So I said that I'd leave it for that day, and see her another day. And she too then went bonkers at me, put the phone down, and has refused to speak to me ever since, even though our sons are at school together.
AIBU to think that lots of people are self centred and hate anyone to act in their own interests rather than pander to them?
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To think that lots of people do not like others acting assertively?
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BoodlesMaDoodles · 15/11/2014 00:10
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