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Sorry you feel this way. Have you tried inviting/initiating the activities?

Perhaps a mumsnet meet up, where are you?

I don't really have any advice, just wanted to say this is exactly how my friendships are too. It's not that I have no friends, but the ones I have always have better friends to go out with. It makes me feel really lonely.

Ilovehamabeads, you've just made me cry. That is exactly it, my friends have better friends to do things with. Wildflowers, I'm not the most confident of people so it's hard to initiate things. I was better a few years ago, dh went on a trip so I invited a few girlfriends round for drinks etc but it never went anywhere. When the kids were toddlers it was easier to invite them for coffee whilst kids played but now they're at school it's harder

same here so I know how you feel. in my experience, I try not to bore people with mundanities and therefore get forgotten about :S

I understand that you find it difficult to invite people to do things, but I think you need to realise it's just saying/typing words and that if people can't make an event, it's not a reflection on you, but a reflection that evrybody is busy and it is hard to find those mutually convenient gaps. I'm meeting friends tonight - it was arranged 6 weeks ago! There's only 3 of us but between, woking late, other commitments, husbands being available etc it was almost impossible.

If I'm arranging anything, I know now - aim for a month away. Now and then people can do things fairly spontaneously but I wouldn't take it personally if I asked a friend to meet for coffee tomorrow and she couldn't make it.

I'm trying to organise a mince pies and mulled wine afternoon before the Christmas holidays - it's like trying to run the UN. But ultimately if no-one comes and I'm stuck with 24 mince pies and 3 litre of mulled wine (mmmmm!), I won't assume it's personal (ha! it probably is ) and more that it's a busy time of year. Maybe I'm deluded but I think you need to put yourself out there more. The more sociable you seem, the more sociable you'll become if that makes sense?

Name changed. I can sympathise. It doesnt bother me now but it used to. Just wanted to send you some support. Chin up!

I'm the same, but I'm trying to accept it and just make the best of it (as in not fall apart at the seams EVERY time this happens to me). I realise I keep trying to make friends with people who just have no interest in meeting up with me. I guess they don't view me as friends then and it is just one sided. Try to keep your chin up chic and maybe friends will come along one day!