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To keep TTC even though DH has just been made redundant?

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Wowthishurtsalot Thu 13-Nov-14 15:51:51

Because I know what my families reaction would be if we catch.

I'm hoping DH isn't going to be out of work long - his contract ran its course and wasn't renewed due to funding issues - but he has really transferable skills and the job market round here is pretty buoyant.

I am employed btw which isn't a popular stance with my family as they think I should be a SAHM until the DC get to secondary school (can't think of anything more boring for me tbh!)

So AIBU to keep TTC given our current situation?

Siarie Thu 13-Nov-14 15:54:17

No I don't think you are being unreasonable.

Chippednailvarnish Thu 13-Nov-14 15:57:18

Its an impossible question to answer without knowing how much income, savings, debt, living expenses you have...

Wowthishurtsalot Thu 13-Nov-14 15:58:52

Only debt is a car loan, no rent or mortgage (really really lucky there!) and other than that same living costs as everyone really.

maninawomansworld Thu 13-Nov-14 16:16:32

No YANBU so long as you've worked out how you will manage should you get pregnant straight away and it takes your DH a while to find a new job.

If your 'plan' involves state support then I think YABU - I am a firm believer you should only bring children into the world if you can support them. Although you don't sound like the kind of people who would qualify anyway.
Plan for the worst hope for the best!

StarlingMurmuration Thu 13-Nov-14 16:21:25

If you don't mind me asking, how old are you? If you're 21, I'd probably say hang on a bit til he gets the next contract. If you're 35, I'd say carry on TTC. Or that's what I'd do, anyway.

formerbabe Thu 13-Nov-14 16:23:20

Do you already have children? How many and how old if you don't mind me asking?!

DoJo Thu 13-Nov-14 16:23:34

How do you feel? Your family's opinions and reactions really aren't important unless you will be relying on them for childcare or financial support.

ScarletFever Thu 13-Nov-14 16:38:38

whats TTC?

ScarletFever Thu 13-Nov-14 16:39:29

ok - i've looked it up

Alibabaandthe40nappies Thu 13-Nov-14 16:42:03

If you have no mortgage then you're in a pretty low risk position, so I would carry on.

Chunderella Thu 13-Nov-14 16:42:28

He won't necessarily be entitled to full paternity leave if you're pregnant before he starts a new role, will he? I'd think carefully about that part.

BikeRunSki Thu 13-Nov-14 16:46:57

DH was made redundant when DD was 4 weeks old. That was a miserable winter and Christmas. DS was just 3. But if you can live within your means on your maternity package/salary then carry on.

MorrisZapp Thu 13-Nov-14 16:49:16

What would your family's reaction be, and why?

VanitasVanitatum Thu 13-Nov-14 16:53:40

If he's so employable that he'll be back in work before you're telling people anyway then I wouldn't worry! I would probably pause just for a few weeks but I'm a bit of a worrier, I'd be thinking of all the what ifs

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