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For this to be a deal breaker?

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HonestLie Thu 13-Nov-14 13:52:06

Met a man who I get on with really well, he's a good friend of a good friend he treats me well but one thing annoys the hell out of me...

He's one of those annoying ranty people on FB. Every disagreement, annoyance in his life is publicised. I find it childish, cringy and quite honestly it irrationally bugs the shit out of me. He's actually not ranty in RL at all so I just don't get it.

Would this be a deal breaker for anyone else or is it just me?

weeblueberry Thu 13-Nov-14 13:53:03

I'd wonder what the hell he was going to say about me when I pissed him off tbh...

LadyLuck10 Thu 13-Nov-14 13:54:25

I would not want to be with someone who could have two very different personalities.

HonestLie Thu 13-Nov-14 13:54:26

It has crossed my mind if I'm being honest.

HonestLie Thu 13-Nov-14 13:57:13

I'm not sure I would go quite as far as two personalities. It just seems that FB is his venting vice but to be it reeks of attention seeking/wanting sympathy. In my world we as adults suck it up, get on with it and then have a moan to a friend/partner family member behind closed doors not on facebook for the everyone to see and comment confused

DialMforMildred Thu 13-Nov-14 14:00:13

Personally, I'd find anyone over the age of about 23 who uses Facebook as a life megaphone to be a no, thanks.

HonestLie Thu 13-Nov-14 14:00:21

Or go get drunk and disect every single detail of what's annoying you or just go dancing. This is reserved for the bigger ones though or through my divorce I may have developed some alcohol issues.

LadyLuck10 Thu 13-Nov-14 14:00:48

Do you think you could put up with someone very attention seeking. For me it would be very difficult to accept how he could be so different in real life but again so different on fb.
Maybe it's only a matter of time before he shows his fb side to you.

HonestLie Thu 13-Nov-14 14:01:35

Yup he's 31 so way over the age threshold of oversharing on FB? And 23?! I think by 18 you should really know better.

HonestLie Thu 13-Nov-14 14:02:32

I wouldn't care if he ranted to me about thing bugging him, wouldn't care one jot. It's really the on FB thing that annoys me.

LadyLuck10 Thu 13-Nov-14 14:03:54

Honestly that's a massive put off. Ranting between both of you is absolutely normal. For the world to see, comment and attention seek - not on.

HonestLie Thu 13-Nov-14 14:05:55

I wonder how a "It's not you, it's you on facebook" conversation would go grin

LadyLuck10 Thu 13-Nov-14 14:07:52

If you break up with him, be prepared for a rant of it on fb grin

HonestLie Thu 13-Nov-14 14:11:54

Oh dear. I'm going to become that person aren't I? I'll be posting it here if there is one. Now here is the big question, do I actually tell him?

LadyLuck10 Thu 13-Nov-14 14:16:37

Just put it down to being incompatible. It's the truth though, you're more private and he's happy to display his life and feeling to all and sundry. What happens if it gets really serious and then starts sharing about you as well. I would do it now before it gets serious.

HonestLie Thu 13-Nov-14 14:26:44

Yeah I think I'll give him a ring tonight

canweseethebunnies Thu 13-Nov-14 14:26:49

At first I thought you meant about the news or politics or something, which wouldn't bother me as long as I didn't strongly disagree with his views!

But you mean about his personal life? Does he name names and slag people off, or write annoying cryptic posts about how the whole world is against him? Either way, it would put me off!

HonestLie Thu 13-Nov-14 14:28:24

He doesn't name but he leaves no doubt about who he's talking about a lot of the time. He also does the cryptic post or the crappy quote pictures a lot.

HonestLie Thu 13-Nov-14 14:30:49

Maybe I should break up with him on his FB wall, pre-empt the FB rant and let them all have at it grin

^^ joke!

freshstart4us Thu 13-Nov-14 14:34:28

Definitely a dealbreaker, get out while you can. Any grown person who feels the need to publicise their personal life on FB has serious self-esteem and/or ego issues, it's only a matter of time before these emerge into your RL relationship.

Frogme Thu 13-Nov-14 14:41:23

How awful. But if this is his only vice be totally sure because this behaviour is really dodgy then it might be worth talking to him about it. He may not be actually putting any thought into it at all. See what his response is. still can't believe that this will be his only vice

HonestLie Thu 13-Nov-14 17:20:20

He phoned me, I ended it, he wasn't best pleased <awaits facebook status>

CurlyWurlyCake Thu 13-Nov-14 17:25:50

Blatent place marking to read FB status rant later.

You did the right thing op

Viviennemary Thu 13-Nov-14 17:27:21

I don't think I'd care very much. I don't rate FB very highly. I see you've ended it. Seems a bit harsh to me. Still it's up to you!

Frogme Thu 13-Nov-14 17:32:06

Did you tell him why?

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