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to really dislike, well abhor, violence on the telly

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lemisscared Tue 11-Nov-14 23:31:02

I have just had to bolt upstairs to bed because dp had flicked over to a film that was just starting and it had some sort of kidnap scenario going on.

Not all films affect me this way, just when the violence is personal. SOMETIMES i Enjoy a good thriller but will often have to switch off half way through as its too violent.

I clearly must BU becsuse film makers make millions of pounds making violent films.

I think this says worrying things about society or the human psyche or both.

then there are computor games. Wtf is that all about - mindless violence. Im not judging but i actually gound one game fp had really upsetting. That was on playstation 1 so hod knows what id be like with a modern version! !

Its only as ive got older that i feel this way. I suffer from anxiety, maybe that's why but really, shouldn't being upset by violence and killing be the norm?? Not the opposite

lemisscared Tue 11-Nov-14 23:32:04

Excuse the typos -fat tired fingers

Moln Tue 11-Nov-14 23:37:36

I'd be similar to you.

Whilst I can watch something such as Vikings, where the battle scenes are grim etc I can't stomach violence that has intention attracted to it or it's selected out for someone (does that make sense? It's possibly what you are saying about it being personal)

DH watches the Peaky Blinders but I have to leave the room

Moln Tue 11-Nov-14 23:38:33

I too can't understand why people find it enjoyable.

lemisscared Tue 11-Nov-14 23:41:09

Peaky blinders??? smile

Moln Tue 11-Nov-14 23:47:46

About a gang in Birmingham concentrates in the years after WW1

I'm more of a Downton Abbey sort!!

omri Wed 12-Nov-14 00:01:01

I agree with you- get v upset at even the thought of, say, young teens watching this stuff and am terrified they'll think this is normal/fine/non issue when really it should be seen as abhorrent.

Another downton girl here!

Ir1na Wed 12-Nov-14 00:09:33

Do you only have a problem with really extreme violence like Saw (which wouldn't BU), or do you basically think people should only be allowed to make rom-coms and Disney cartoons?

Ir1na Wed 12-Nov-14 00:11:32

And the repressed 20s culture they show on Downton Abbey is seriously f*cking disturbing! hmm

JCDenton Wed 12-Nov-14 00:12:10

Computer games are not mindless, it's my #1 most disliked misconception about my hobby.

cheesecakemom Wed 12-Nov-14 00:22:25

Couldn't care less, there are worse things on TV and the world in general.

MrsGoslingWannabe Wed 12-Nov-14 00:28:22

I don't like violence but will just look away. The relaxation of attitudes towards porn worries me far more especially the implications for the next generation of teens/young people.

lemisscared Wed 12-Nov-14 08:08:24

I am not judging it. It just really upsets me - i wish it didn't because i miss out on some good films.

Interesting point about the porn. I think i agree with you because of the fact that most porn tends to be pretty violent. Which is a shame really is sex is actually nice (weak adjective).

Downton abbey is a crock of shit though. Im relegated to quest and dave!

lemisscared Wed 12-Nov-14 08:11:13

The computer games appear mindless to me because im so shit at them and am generally just pressing the buttons randomly - im more of a candy crush girl (cos thats intellectual that is!)

jambag Wed 12-Nov-14 08:57:48

Nope, I'm with you too. Never used to be bothered by ANYTHING I watched (I LOVED SAW when I first watched it, couldn't go there now), but over the last 5 years or so I just can't stand watching violence or simulations of other people being in pain or loss. Complete turnaround. Completely limits what films I agree to watching . . . for me the sound effects are just as jarring so can't just look away.

I think its a bit worrying too . . . and agree with the porn viewpoint above also

schokolade Wed 12-Nov-14 09:05:22

I am with you. I cringe at the TV series and films that DH watches - latest was Game of Thrones and Medicus. If they're not killing each other they're chopping off hands or branding people with hot irons. What the hell?? DH looks at me like I'm mad and says "it's not real". But I can't get past the fact that those sorts of things did used to happen regularly, and similar things do still happen unfortunately. Why on earth would you watch it if you didn't have to?!

It seems to me that it's in virtually everything I try to watch these days. I end up covering my eyes in most things. Maybe I've just got more sensitive though.

syne Wed 12-Nov-14 18:54:55

'Computer games are not mindless, it's my #1 most disliked misconception about my hobby.'

Computer games can be and mostly are mindless especially once you've learned the basics. I've spent umpteen hours getting close to world records on games and the moment you start thinking, your screwed.

(obviously not all, but many many many are, same as films, books and many other past times)

the violence in films is sometimes -purposefully- a bit over the top but everyone has different thresholds for it. I think its a reflection of us as a species in general you don't get to the top of the tree by saying 'ahem, excuse me please' iyswim.
as for porn, you'd have to have watched all the porn to say most is violent.

ZeViteVitchofCwismas Wed 12-Nov-14 19:00:13

Well I cant stand it on things like eastenders or on ads for shows before watershed...

in a film i know i dont mind but splashed all over the place or surgery etc....

cakewitch Wed 12-Nov-14 19:15:37

Am in complete agreement, OP. Can anybody who watches such things justify to the rest of us why it is ok to find it 'entertaining' to see another human being mutilated horribly, or murdered??? And yes... Before any of you spout "oh, cakewitch, it's not real, you know!" yes... I do know. That is not the issue. So come on then?? Justify.

gamerchick Wed 12-Nov-14 19:20:15

Meh the more blood and pulling off heads the better for me. grin it's HIGHLY entertaining... much better than chick flick boring wank.

Why the fuck should I justify it when demanded too just because it's not somebody else's cup of tea? hmm

InspirationEscapesMe Wed 12-Nov-14 19:31:15

It's cathartic.

SmilesandPilesOfPresents Wed 12-Nov-14 19:56:21

Sometimes yes, but mostly I'm bored of seeing it.

Bored of the violence, bored of the nudity, bored of the swearing. It's now really hard work to find something worth watching that hasn't sunk to these levels when I'm not in the mood for something like that.

Ir1na Wed 12-Nov-14 20:20:58

Isn't Peaky Blinders set at roundabout the same time as Downton? Am I the only one who's now imagining a crossover... hmm

cakewitch Wed 12-Nov-14 20:30:52

Ah, gamerchick.. I just find it a distinctly odd thing about human nature, that we read the news and hear horrific stories daily about murder and atrocities and we feel quite rightly sad, yet can see the same things acted out in front of us, in a film, and view it as entertainment, and take pleasure from it?

gamerchick Wed 12-Nov-14 20:42:17

We all find something odd about stuff we're not into personally. I certainly do wink

I don't connect the horribleness in the world to the films I watch or the games I play.. I enjoy them, they give me pleasure just like I'm sure you have things you like to do that give you pleasure.

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