Just that really. I've been brought up to live within my means, so I'm not tight-fisted with gifts but I do have a budget for them which won't require living on baked beans until April/still be paying off credit card debt next Christmas.
However, my ILs seem to be into giving big presents regardless - for example, even when my SIL was unemployed she still spent probably 20 on both myself and my husband, when I didn't really expect her to spend anything, or maybe just a token gift, and MIL has suggested to other SIL this year that she gets DC1 a gift that costs the same amount that we're spending on him (and other SIL has less money than us)
Am desperately trying to find good online deals so it looks like we've spent more than we have on them, as DH feels we need to match their expectations whereas tbh I'm a bit resentful of having to spend money on things they probably don't really need anyway for the sake of keeping up appearances. Additionally we will be spending Christmas Day with both his family and mine, and mine would be horrified if we gave them expensive gifts (like the ones DH wants to get his family) as they know we can't really afford it, but I don't want to be giving expensive gifts to his family and not mine, especially since my family do loads to help us while his family do far less.
So: AIBU to just buy both families what we can afford?
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ChristmasCrackersHoHoHo · 11/11/2014 19:29
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