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To find the treatment of Amy on Big Bang so unpleasant I don't like the show any more

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Threesoundslikealot Tue 11-Nov-14 12:59:48

I just find it painful to watch. Her friendship with the other women has been turned from a slightly uncomfortable but also endearing dynamic into one in which they seem to constantly snigger at her, and cut her out when they can, and as for the relationship with Sheldon... It's like watching Olive in On The Buses again. It's humiliating and unnecessary.

Her character was such a strong one at first, and over the series it's become actually pathetic, in its truest sense. She is rejected all round, and it's just not funny.

squoosh Tue 11-Nov-14 13:02:43

In the last episode I saw Penny and Bernadette were sniping at each other but not at Amy.

EatShitDezza Tue 11-Nov-14 13:03:48

What squoosh said.

The whole Amy and Sheldon thing is quite funny. The relationship contract that they both follow grin

gingee Tue 11-Nov-14 13:04:21

I have to confess, I don't actually like the character much. Don't know what that says about me. I find it a bit wearing that she's the butt of a lot of jokes, I did like it when a while back she wore her bridesmaids dress all the time, I quite liked bridesmaidzilla Amy.

ChangeYouFucker Tue 11-Nov-14 13:04:46

I love the show but slightly agree. I want her to dump Sheldon. honestly it's abusive the way he treats her!!!

She's my favourite character.

Though I think her relationship with Penny and Bernidette just reflects the complexity of female relationships, especially in threesomes (as in 3 women being close friends rather than that type of threesome).

ChangeYouFucker Tue 11-Nov-14 13:06:31

One of my fav moments - at Disney land. Hilarious.

tigermoll Tue 11-Nov-14 13:08:00

The sexual politics of TBBT are grim at best, especially Amy and Sheldon. Amy wants a physical relationship, Sheldon doesn't - they are totally incompatible. His distress and her constant rejection aren't funny, just tiring. And let's not get started on what a creepy misogynist Howard is, or how Leonard only really regards penny as a piece of meat.

KingJoffreysBloodshotEye Tue 11-Nov-14 13:09:14

I'm up to episode 8 of the new series and there is an Amy/Sheldon turning point.

It does get better for them as a 'couple'.

And both Penny and Bernadette really care about her.

ItsaTIARA Tue 11-Nov-14 13:09:40

I'm hoping that after the kiss last series Amy and Sheldon move in the direction of a physical relationship. Could be very funny and make Amy happy. The show runners are walking a tightrope at the moment, trying to be a little bit realistic about how Amy's situation might actually make her feel, but actually that's not pleasant viewing, since MB plays it very believably, so in the interest of a watchable sitcom they need to have her catch a break.

Threesoundslikealot Tue 11-Nov-14 13:09:42

You see, to me, the last episode was about how Amy is slightly desperate to feel like a proper one of the group, and was thrilled at a falling out among the other two because it gave her a role. As soon as they made up, they were back to being a close knit twosome, slightly excluding her.

The dynamics of that group are off. And Amy is the one left out.

BrieAndChilli Tue 11-Nov-14 13:11:07

It's complicated a it can be uncomfortable sometimes watching it BUT there is a lot of truth in it. Ds1 age 7 and FIL age 61 have aspergers. Ds is borderline with his traits but FIL is extremely aspergers and I do see similarities between his and stepMIL and amy and Sheldons relationship. Obviously as with any sitcom behaviour and situations are exaggerated.
My only hope for ds's future is that he finds a group of friends that look out for him ala Big Bang theory.

BrieAndChilli Tue 11-Nov-14 13:12:35

But in real life in groups of girls relationships are always changing, people left out of things etc

BrieAndChilli Tue 11-Nov-14 13:12:58

It's not a disney movie where people are all happy and lovely all the time.

ASnowdog Tue 11-Nov-14 13:14:50

She did put a jar of coins in her purse to smash Bernadette's face in over the car parking space dispute. She's not that nice.

grocklebox Tue 11-Nov-14 13:17:47

you only have to read MN to see that this kind of thing is real life. Women seem to have friends they don't even like, talk about behind their backs etc etc.
And they have crappy unequal incompatible relationships that they stay in for whatever reason. It's called life.

KingJoffreysBloodshotEye Tue 11-Nov-14 13:18:07

None of them are 'nice' though.

I don't think we're supposed to properly like any of them.

It's not supposed to be like Friends. (Am aware they were pretty vile at times too.)

And Sheldon treats Amy better than Ross treated Rachel.

Threesoundslikealot Tue 11-Nov-14 13:19:03

I don't think Amy is a saint, or particularly nice. I think her original character was abrasive, pretty similar to Sheldon's, and she has a plethora of her own issues. But I think the series has changed her character, and made her needy and rejected. The women's relationship doesn't change - that's the point. Penny and Bernadette always seem to be laughing at Amy a bit behind her back. There are no shifting alliances between them.

Of course no one's happy all the time. But Amy's character doesn't really catch a break. I'm glad to hear that it might improve later on.

grocklebox Tue 11-Nov-14 13:26:42

The most recent episode was entirely about their shifting allegiances actually. Didn't you see it?

Winterbells Tue 11-Nov-14 13:26:47

I think the whole show is dreadful.

StrangeGlue Tue 11-Nov-14 13:30:25

I think the sexual politics in tbbt are questionable a lot of the time. Particularly between penny and Leonard. We're meant to feel for him but a lot of the time he's manipulative. I also often think Amy and sheldon's relationship normalises a lot of abusive behaviour.

juliascurr Tue 11-Nov-14 13:33:33

I've often imagined recasting it with genders reversed
would it ever work?

Threesoundslikealot Tue 11-Nov-14 13:35:31

I did see it, grocklebox. I gave my view of it upthread. The whole point was it temporarily shifted so Amy felt like she had a real role, and by the end, she was excluded again.

JoanHickson Tue 11-Nov-14 13:38:48

It's an odd show. As has been said people and relationships are like that I real life. confused

Mrsjayy Tue 11-Nov-14 13:41:44

Amy was Sheldon s perfect match but imo not the same as sheldon amy didn't get to be a teen girl at school she craved that so is a bit backward in that sense her friendship with the other women is what she would have if she was 15 so she loved the gossip last week sheldon didn't care and doesn't want to change Amy just wanted to be a normal girl the friend ship has helped that, <deep>

Mrsjayy Tue 11-Nov-14 13:42:56

Leonard gives me the creeps some times

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