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To find the treatment of Amy on Big Bang so unpleasant I don't like the show any more

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Threesoundslikealot · 11/11/2014 12:59

I just find it painful to watch. Her friendship with the other women has been turned from a slightly uncomfortable but also endearing dynamic into one in which they seem to constantly snigger at her, and cut her out when they can, and as for the relationship with Sheldon... It's like watching Olive in On The Buses again. It's humiliating and unnecessary.

Her character was such a strong one at first, and over the series it's become actually pathetic, in its truest sense. She is rejected all round, and it's just not funny.

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squoosh · 11/11/2014 13:02

In the last episode I saw Penny and Bernadette were sniping at each other but not at Amy.

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EatShitDezza · 11/11/2014 13:03

What squoosh said.

The whole Amy and Sheldon thing is quite funny. The relationship contract that they both follow Grin

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gingee · 11/11/2014 13:04

I have to confess, I don't actually like the character much. Don't know what that says about me. I find it a bit wearing that she's the butt of a lot of jokes, I did like it when a while back she wore her bridesmaids dress all the time, I quite liked bridesmaidzilla Amy.

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ChangeYouFucker · 11/11/2014 13:04

I love the show but slightly agree. I want her to dump Sheldon. honestly it's abusive the way he treats her!!!

She's my favourite character.

Though I think her relationship with Penny and Bernidette just reflects the complexity of female relationships, especially in threesomes (as in 3 women being close friends rather than that type of threesome).

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ChangeYouFucker · 11/11/2014 13:06

One of my fav moments - at Disney land. Hilarious.

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tigermoll · 11/11/2014 13:08

The sexual politics of TBBT are grim at best, especially Amy and Sheldon. Amy wants a physical relationship, Sheldon doesn't - they are totally incompatible. His distress and her constant rejection aren't funny, just tiring. And let's not get started on what a creepy misogynist Howard is, or how Leonard only really regards penny as a piece of meat.

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KingJoffreysBloodshotEye · 11/11/2014 13:09

I'm up to episode 8 of the new series and there is an Amy/Sheldon turning point.

It does get better for them as a 'couple'.

And both Penny and Bernadette really care about her.

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ItsaTIARA · 11/11/2014 13:09

I'm hoping that after the kiss last series Amy and Sheldon move in the direction of a physical relationship. Could be very funny and make Amy happy. The show runners are walking a tightrope at the moment, trying to be a little bit realistic about how Amy's situation might actually make her feel, but actually that's not pleasant viewing, since MB plays it very believably, so in the interest of a watchable sitcom they need to have her catch a break.

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Threesoundslikealot · 11/11/2014 13:09

You see, to me, the last episode was about how Amy is slightly desperate to feel like a proper one of the group, and was thrilled at a falling out among the other two because it gave her a role. As soon as they made up, they were back to being a close knit twosome, slightly excluding her.

The dynamics of that group are off. And Amy is the one left out.

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BrieAndChilli · 11/11/2014 13:11

It's complicated a it can be uncomfortable sometimes watching it BUT there is a lot of truth in it. Ds1 age 7 and FIL age 61 have aspergers. Ds is borderline with his traits but FIL is extremely aspergers and I do see similarities between his and stepMIL and amy and Sheldons relationship. Obviously as with any sitcom behaviour and situations are exaggerated.
My only hope for ds's future is that he finds a group of friends that look out for him ala Big Bang theory.

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BrieAndChilli · 11/11/2014 13:12

But in real life in groups of girls relationships are always changing, people left out of things etc

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BrieAndChilli · 11/11/2014 13:12

It's not a disney movie where people are all happy and lovely all the time.

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ASnowdog · 11/11/2014 13:14

She did put a jar of coins in her purse to smash Bernadette's face in over the car parking space dispute. She's not that nice.

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grocklebox · 11/11/2014 13:17

you only have to read MN to see that this kind of thing is real life. Women seem to have friends they don't even like, talk about behind their backs etc etc.
And they have crappy unequal incompatible relationships that they stay in for whatever reason. It's called life.

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KingJoffreysBloodshotEye · 11/11/2014 13:18

None of them are 'nice' though.

I don't think we're supposed to properly like any of them.

It's not supposed to be like Friends. (Am aware they were pretty vile at times too.)

And Sheldon treats Amy better than Ross treated Rachel.

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Threesoundslikealot · 11/11/2014 13:19

I don't think Amy is a saint, or particularly nice. I think her original character was abrasive, pretty similar to Sheldon's, and she has a plethora of her own issues. But I think the series has changed her character, and made her needy and rejected. The women's relationship doesn't change - that's the point. Penny and Bernadette always seem to be laughing at Amy a bit behind her back. There are no shifting alliances between them.

Of course no one's happy all the time. But Amy's character doesn't really catch a break. I'm glad to hear that it might improve later on.

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grocklebox · 11/11/2014 13:26

The most recent episode was entirely about their shifting allegiances actually. Didn't you see it?

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Winterbells · 11/11/2014 13:26

I think the whole show is dreadful.

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StrangeGlue · 11/11/2014 13:30

I think the sexual politics in tbbt are questionable a lot of the time. Particularly between penny and Leonard. We're meant to feel for him but a lot of the time he's manipulative. I also often think Amy and sheldon's relationship normalises a lot of abusive behaviour.

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juliascurr · 11/11/2014 13:33

I've often imagined recasting it with genders reversed
would it ever work?

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Threesoundslikealot · 11/11/2014 13:35

I did see it, grocklebox. I gave my view of it upthread. The whole point was it temporarily shifted so Amy felt like she had a real role, and by the end, she was excluded again.

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JoanHickson · 11/11/2014 13:38

It's an odd show. As has been said people and relationships are like that I real life. Confused

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Mrsjayy · 11/11/2014 13:41

Amy was Sheldon s perfect match but imo not the same as sheldon amy didn't get to be a teen girl at school she craved that so is a bit backward in that sense her friendship with the other women is what she would have if she was 15 so she loved the gossip last week sheldon didn't care and doesn't want to change Amy just wanted to be a normal girl the friend ship has helped that,

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Mrsjayy · 11/11/2014 13:42

Leonard gives me the creeps some times

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enormouse · 11/11/2014 13:43

I've stopped watching TBBT a while ago. Mainly because of Leonard. I find his character to be needy, whiney and emotionally immature. I really can't stand watching his manipulative treatment of Priya and Penny.

I also think the writing is very inconsistent especially with regard to how the women are written.

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