so I am a sahm with 2 primary aged boys and a toddler. (well I do a little seasonal work). dh has a well paid responsible job with a long commute. We both have some medical conditions which involve doctors and sometimes hospital appointments. whenever he has an appointment he works from home and than gets to go to appointments. I have to either bring dc with me or occassionally if hospital arrange childcare. I also have to bring toddler to ds2 appointments.
Recently I had a procedure under sedation. Dh couldn't spare a days leave to look after dc. He worked from home an than decided to get a blood test done leaving me to chase after toddler. Fortunately the sedation was mild but I would have loved some time to recupurate.
conversely when he was hospitalised with a chest infection he had a whole week to recuperate. His mum actually took him away for a few days so he could rest. When I drove 150 miles to meet them having single handedly looked after dc all week she clearly expected and to a lesser extent dh to carry on doing all the running around.
It just seems that sahm in particular are just expected to get on with if if ill or take dc with them to appointments or sort childcare out themselves. I remember driving being left with dc when I had been up in the night with diarohhea so dh could go to a football match.
I guess I just feel put upon. Today he was working from home so arranged to get car serviced. As a result he wanted me to drive him to hospital which was fine as I would than be back for my appointment. Something cropped up at work so now he is going in to work in my car. Meaning I have to cancel my appointment and miss my gym class. Obviously I know it is important but I just feel like an unpaid pa. I sort all prescription out for us a d out 2 dc.
aibu to think when I am ill I deserve some support.
o and yes I could get a job but a day job wouldn't cover childcare and dh didn't want me to work nights. I guess he realised he would actually have to get off his arse and put his dc to bed.
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3boys40 · 11/11/2014 12:55
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