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AIBU to be annoyed at this woman brushing her hair in my office

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insancerre Tue 11-Nov-14 06:47:15

I manage a small nursery and the lockers are in my office due to space constructions.
Moving them is not an option. Bags have to go in because of safeguarding and mobile phones
One woman is obsessed with combing her hair and does it several times a day
I have never liked people combing hair or pitting on makeup on public. I just find it gross.
But is it me or should I ask her tostop or while iI come across as a weirdo?
I nearly asked her yesterday but part of me thought it was petty.
It does bother me though
Would it bother anyone else?

IAmAShitHotLawyer Tue 11-Nov-14 06:51:17

pUT A mirror in the toilet and tell her to do her personal grooming in there.

milkjetmum Tue 11-Nov-14 06:54:56

I had a colleague floss next to me (cringe), count yourself lucky wink

Sirzy Tue 11-Nov-14 06:54:59

I think it is pretty normal for people to stand at their locker and comb hair/touch up make up. I would hardly class that as in public really, no different from doing it at the sinks of toilets.

Unless you are in a meeting or something at the time then yabu, it's just an unfortunate side effect of where the lockers are

Gileswithachainsaw Tue 11-Nov-14 06:55:12

Your a bit weird. Sorry.

As long as she's not spending hours doing when she should be with the children then what's the issue.

If I don't brush my hair enough it gets tangled.

I would imagine if kids are climbing over her or babies pulling or stroking her hair it would need a re brush tbh.

Sunna Tue 11-Nov-14 06:57:39

If there isn't a proper cloakroom then you would be very unreasonable to tell her to stop.

Thebodynowchillingsothere Tue 11-Nov-14 07:01:06

Yep agree you would sound very rude to tell her to stop. That's what the lockers are for.

earplugsahoy Tue 11-Nov-14 07:07:49

If she is combing her hair when she is supposed to be looking after children then no YANBU to tell her to stop it and get on with her work.

if she is combing her hair during her break in the only available space to do so then YABVU.

insancerre Tue 11-Nov-14 07:24:59

I knew I was weird smile

TheWitTank Tue 11-Nov-14 07:32:25

Combing her hair several times a day isn't obsessive. The locker area seems the most natural place aside from the bathroom to do these things, and I wouldn't say it was gross.

GoodArvo Tue 11-Nov-14 08:32:16

I used to have a reception job in a large law firm and a woman used to cover me while I went to lunch. I used to come back to her hair all over the desk because she brushed her hair all over it while dealing with clients. It was gross. She was generally clueless and she got sacked.

I agree with OP. It's pretty yuck. I also hate seeing women applying make up on public transport. I feel like I'm sitting in their bathroom.

EBearhug Tue 11-Nov-14 08:36:40

We had a bloke visit who got his electric razor out and shaved his chin in the middle of the office. I thought that was weird, especially as we have shower rooms with good mirrors and lighting on every floor of the building to encourage cycling to work and gym use. (I can understand if he didn't want to do it opposite blokes using the urinal in the men's loos.)

Melfish Tue 11-Nov-14 08:42:50

Ebearhug: you think that's bad- I had a male colleague who used the reflective surface of the building wall outside the entrance to shave his face with his electric shaver.

carlsonrichards Tue 11-Nov-14 08:47:17

No, it wouldn't bother me if it's a lockeroom area. That's not public, it is a staff area.

Cat2014 Tue 11-Nov-14 08:49:59

Count yourself lucky - I have a colleague who trims his warts/hard skin on his hands with scissors at his desk confused

MioMoo Tue 11-Nov-14 08:58:19

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

RedToothBrush Tue 11-Nov-14 09:11:00

Its a locker room. Its not public.

Iggly Tue 11-Nov-14 09:14:46

You need more space for the staff not helpful

WhatchaMaCalllit Tue 11-Nov-14 09:22:34

I read it as an office that is doubling up as locker room as there isn't enough space to have the lockers anywhere else. If it started out as an office and became a locker area then I don't think you're being too unreasonable to be put out by it.

If you have a separate toilet area (and I really hope you do) perhaps (with the ok from the nursery managers/owners) you could circulate a note to all staff (or they could) saying that the lockers are there for storing personal items but any personal grooming (applying makeup/brushing hair) is to be done in the toilet areas from now on.

LarrytheCucumber Tue 11-Nov-14 09:44:38

Insancere I hate seeing people brush their hair. My grandmother (born 1887) told me you should never be seen brushing your hair and never ever brush your hair downstairs. Maybe she had hairbrushing phobia too. I would do everything I could to encourage the person concerned to brush her hair in the cloakroom/toilet.

BarryTheHatchet Tue 11-Nov-14 09:46:45

never ever brush your hair downstairs <snigger>

GotToBeInItToWinIt Tue 11-Nov-14 09:48:51

I actually agree with you, it makes me cringe to see people put make up on/brush hair etc in public. I don't know whether you can say anything without getting her back up though confused.

echt Tue 11-Nov-14 09:51:58

OP, your problem is that your workspace has been turned into a grooming area. It's her problem too.

Take it up with management.

I don't think it's OK to majorly groom in the workplace: scurf, deodorant <boak>

Or fart <TAAFT>

Or eat.

sharlxx Tue 11-Nov-14 09:56:42

why is she brushing her hair and doing her makeup if shes at work in a nursery? strange....I have a phobia of hair it makes me cringe so I wouldnt be happy

KoalaDownUnder Tue 11-Nov-14 10:01:37

I think her behaviour is weird and rude.

Unless I've misread the OP, it's not a locker room, in the sense of 'a room full of sinks and toilets and lockers'. It's a bank of lockers installed in an office.

She should take her grooming tools to the toilets and do it there. It's not appropriate to brush your hair in someone's office.

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