Ex usually phones once a day to speak to the DC. It can be anytime between dinner and bed, sometimes after, sometimes no phone call for days. To be fair the majority of the time he does call and its usually between 6-8pm.
He will usually call my phone, I answer (but don't generally speak to him just call the nearest DC to say goodnight and they pass the phone to siblings when done)
We've had another mammoth falling out this weekend (I won't go into details other than to say it has nothing to do with the phone calls).
However he has text to say he will no longer be calling my phone to speak to the DC as he wants no contact with me. From now on he will be calling DD's phone. He wants me to ensure it is charged and available to them when he rings (from past experience anything less will result in accusations of keeping the DC from him).
Last night DD was doing homework and DS and other DD were playing lego when he rang. I called to DD 'you need to answer your phone daddy is calling'
DD: yeah in a minute (she was doing homework)
Me: no you need to get it now or you'll miss the call.
I also called through to the other DC and they said yeah wait there/no i'm playing.
Not one of them made a move to pick it up or to ring back afterwards despite me reminding them that they had missed his call.
Ex then text saying its not ok for me to use the kids against him and i must ensure they speak with him on the phone when he calls.
AIBU to tell him to fuck off and if they don't want to answer then he can take it up with them? Or since I answered my own phone when he rang do I just answer DD's and make them come to the phone?
I feel so caught up in all this petty crap i can't see what is bloody normal anymore.
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pantone363 · 10/11/2014 11:18
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