In thinking Oh is being a little ridiculous

[Ownerofalittlechimp]

We have a ds 2.4 who doesn't always sleep through but majority of the time does. Woke at 4.30 this morning so oh brought him in with us & he rolls over us, chats etc for next 20mins (despite me trying to settle him). Oh then takes him down stairs & until 6.30 I can hear oh grumbling that it's a f joke. Ds now in his room playing & I'm up (have a chest infection so had pretty much left him to it) & he when he comes upstairs I say to ds to give daddy a kiss as he's going to work. Oh responds with An arsey "I don't want to talk to him" & has now stomped off to work without speaking to either of us.

I get that he's tired & a bit grumpy but surely that's part & parcel of having a toddler. He didn't have to get up with him, could have put his night light on & left a book in his cot (done this before & he goes off again). Also 95% of the time I deal with the night stuff so it's not a regular thing iyswim. I'm working today too, starting an hour after oh & have nursery drop off.

Aibu to think oh should just get on with it (he'll be sulky all day & tonight)?

[ApocalypseThen]

Misses the toddler days himself, does he?

[ChocolateBubbleBarsmakemefat]

What a child! And I mean your DP when I say that. If he sulks later tell him to get a grip and get over it. His behaviour earlier in the day was crap and he needs to make it up to both you and your DS.
Seems that he thinks the world revolves purely around him, he needs a reality check!
Hope your feeling better soon OP

[Iggly]

He was swearing with the toddler in earshot? Nice.

[FishWithABicycle]

YANBU your OH is being a drama queen, manchild etc. He's not had to deal with anything out of the ordinary for a parent, he's chosen to deal with it in a quite difficult way when easier paths were open, and is making a big deal of it in order to get is responsibilities reduced in future.

Refusing to give the child an affectionate goodbye, despite whatever has happened, is horrible, nasty and vindictive poor parenting.

LTB.

[Sockstealer]

He is bu but then tiredness can do funny things to the best of people.

You should both probably be on board with getting your toddler to self sooth back to sleep unless he is ill of course. As getting him up will just stimulate him and wake him up further.

I'd probably leave him a dippy cup of water and leave him to go back to sleep.

[Sockstealer]

Sorry just read that you deal with most of night stuff so it's hardly constant sleepless nights for him is it?

[EarthDays]

I think if this is not a regular occurrence that he gets up he can hardly claim over tiredness. I think it's plain mean to do that to a 2 year old. If my DP said that to our toddler, I'd be quite pissed off with him.

[Andanotherthing123]

Crikey, horrible behaviour from your OH. Remind him that if he behaves like this with his son, there'll soon be a time when ds doesn't bother him at all, as he'll not want a relationship with him as a grown up.

[MrsPiggie]

We all have grumpy, unreasonable days. Not nice, but it happens. He has probably realised by now that he has acted like a spoilt brat and I expect he will apologise. If he carries on sulking then he is a moron.

[Jolleigh]

If he's stopped being an arse when he comes home, just let it go. We all have bad days. He doesn't really have anything to complain about by the sounds of it so hopefully will make up his attitude to your LO when he gets home and has less blood in his caffeine system.

[Ownerofalittlechimp]

Sorry for the late update, long day at work & just settled a v tired ds!

He's not in a mood anymore & has apologised ( doesn't think he had to tho!). Just told him the swearing was totally unacceptable, that he behaved like a manchild & he is always to say bye/kiss ds when he leaves.

Still think he's a prat tho .

Thanks for the responses & for letting me vent x