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Montegomongoose Sat 08-Nov-14 21:14:06

I'm on holiday and was at a nice lunch yesterday given by an acquaintance at which I met a woman.

She'd brought a dish which was pretty nice so I asked her for the recipe. It also transpired she's moving to the UK, fairly near me, in 2015.

All fine. Except that this afternoon she dropped by to give me the typed-out recipe which included her own 'Tasting Notes.'

Which made reference to 'complex flavours' and 'after notes.'

AIBU to leave without calling to arrange to meet up next year? Is she a complete tool or is this remotely redeemable?

We are falling about reading it like Autralian Mastechef.

It's a pasta* dish FFS.

*Please read as 'paaahstar'

LadyLuck10 Sat 08-Nov-14 21:16:48

Tbh you sound absolutely horrid. She was kind enough to drop of the recipe yet you're 'falling over' laughing at her. Absolutely horrid.

Firbolg Sat 08-Nov-14 21:22:38

I think you sound sneery and chippy. If she was nice, and bothered to drop you off her own recipe when you asked, surely she's not deserving of such bile?

Aeroflotgirl Sat 08-Nov-14 21:26:02

Op how old are you? You sound like your 10 tbh. It was extremely kind if her to type out that recipe for you, mabey she has a passion for cooking. Fair enough you don't share that passion, but don't be so bloody childish and nasty.

Waltermittythesequel Sat 08-Nov-14 21:26:55

Strangle the friendship?

What friendship?

She didn't attempt anything other than to give you a recipe which you requested.

I'm confused.

Perhaps she left there thinking you were a common-as-muck dickhead!


mymummademelistentoshitmusic Sat 08-Nov-14 21:27:10

Yes, don't subject the poor friendly woman to the likes of yourself. She sounds so much better than that.

Aeroflotgirl Sat 08-Nov-14 21:27:23

Mabey she's better off without you in her life. Do her a favour, and dont contact her!

Montegomongoose Sat 08-Nov-14 21:27:32

In fairness, I'm laughing, in the privacy of my hotel room at her pretensions.

She herself was perfectly pleasant.

However, it was kind of her to drop it off. Maybe I can find other foodies to introduce her to when she moves here.

Seriously? You think 'complex flavours' is usual?

Thanks for your replies!

Aeroflotgirl Sat 08-Nov-14 21:29:14

Mabey, but Mabey she thought you would be interested, obviously not!

Wellthen Sat 08-Nov-14 21:29:26

I think the op is trying to be lighthearted!

I think it sounds pretentious and would probably laugh too. Although I think you dig your own grave with 'falling about' as that did sound nasty.

I think you should share any particular gems!

LadyLuck10 Sat 08-Nov-14 21:31:06

'Complex flavours' may not sound usual but so what? She is clearly passionate and kind enough to make the effort to share her recipe with you. Don't contact her when she moves, she could do without someone like you.

Waltermittythesequel Sat 08-Nov-14 21:32:03

I don't know if 'complex flavours' is usual or not.

I do know that in this story there is a woman who was very pleasant to a stranger, took the time to type out a recipe and then went out of her way to drop it off.

Then there's a woman who ate the other woman's food, asked for a recipe, took the recipe then came onto an internet forum to slag the first woman off, is falling around the place at the woman's language and is strangling a non-existent friendship, making sure that when Woman One moves to the UK she does absolutely nothing to be remotely nice to her.

One of them is defnitely an arsehole...

Montegomongoose Sat 08-Nov-14 21:40:10

Of course lighthearted!

Happy to cough to unreasonable and childish though grin

Thank you for replying, going out to dinner now. Notebook in my bag!

PoppyWearer Sat 08-Nov-14 21:43:39

Oh yay, another thread-gone-bunfight tonight! Good work, MN'ers!

Full moon, anyone?!

TinklyLittleLaugh Sat 08-Nov-14 21:45:05

Personally I like people who are a bit eccentric. If they can cook well, all the better.

Hissy Sat 08-Nov-14 21:46:57

yeah FFS, it's OK to laugh at people who say PAAASTAR...

it's a lighthearted thread ladies and gentlemen

AIBU sucks sometimes, so many throw buns just cos.

Vitalstatistix Sat 08-Nov-14 21:48:11

If you already feel like you aren't going to 'click' then it's pointless wasting your time or hers, really. It's not possible to like everyone you meet. Doesn't mean there's anything wrong with them. It's just one of those things.

Waltermittythesequel Sat 08-Nov-14 21:51:50

Hissy no, actually it's not ok to take the piss out of someone's accent.

If she had come on here and said that she spoke like a chav or something she would be torn apart.

Introverted snobbery is just as bad as the other kind.

LadyLuck10 Sat 08-Nov-14 21:53:29

This isn't lighthearted. It was being bitchy over someone's kindness.

Hissy Sat 08-Nov-14 22:03:11

paaasta is affected. it is pasta.

ANYone can make PASTA, it's not hard! Even if you know NOTHING about food you can cook something with pasta and serve it. Regardless if the onions/peppers or what other abomination is slung in is cooked properly or still semi raw.

the typed notes with taste thingies is odd. as i see it, OP is merely sharing something she saw as odd.

OP if you enjoy her company see her again, if not, don't. Either way, if she is going to be moving somewhere she has no idea of, it would be nice if you could give a heads up and an orientation whatever you decide.

NickiFury Sat 08-Nov-14 22:05:00

I remember a thread a while ago where people took the piss out of the information books written by holiday apartment owners for their guests, local restaurant reviews and trivial inane information that no one could ever possibly need. This reminded me of that. As I recall posters were falling over themselves to post their own experiences and no one gave them a Po Faced Pull Up about it, in fact every one had a good laugh about it.

puntasticusername Sat 08-Nov-14 22:05:10

Op, you've changed your story - first you said "we are falling about reading it", then I am laughing the privacy of my hotel room". So I'm going to lean towards thinking this is more likely to be a bitchy thread, with subsequent backtracking and hole-digging, than a light hearted one.

YABU, btw.

lomega Sat 08-Nov-14 22:09:23

perhaps, as you asked for the recipe, she assumed you were into cooking and used that as a starting point to talk to you...? Perhaps she's trying to make new friends, or get to know people in the area she's moving to. and you kind of just shat on her attempt at being nice.

sorry, YABU. even if you thought her wording was pretentious and not what you yourself would use, it doesn't mean she's a bad person.

Firbolg Sat 08-Nov-14 22:09:39

Hissy, for all we know the other woman is Italian and pronouncing 'pasta' in her own accent. And honestly, as a vegetarian who likes food, eats out a lot and has as a result eaten hundreds of different pasta dishes (because it's the lazy veggie option for a lot of pubs and restaurants), I can say that in my personal experience, it is very possible to make godawful pasta dishes. Anyway, the OP liked this one enough to ask for the recipe, so I'm assuming it wasn't spaghetti alla Dolmio.

LadyLuck10 Sat 08-Nov-14 22:12:50

Hissy if anyone can make pasta according to you, the op must be pretty useless if she had to ask for a recipe.

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