I am (just) 30. I have recently changed jobs, leaving a badly paid and unstable career to start again in a new industry. I am working very hard to move up, on middling low money. I have a boyfriend I live with, who is lovely, live in rented accommodation. No children (don't want any right now).
My mum visited recently, and one of the things she said to me - after I mentioned I was thinking of doing a car boot to get rid of two black bags of clothes and use the proceeds for a foreign holiday we'd booked, what can I say, I've got a little bit of a Del Boy streak - was that she was so, so sorry for me, and that her heart breaks for me, when she sees how hard things are for me. She thought with "all my education" (I found academic stuff fairly easy, read a lot, have an MA in literature) that I'd have this amaaaazing life.
It's been rankling, and it's making me feel like shit/an utter failure. Points to note:
- She loves me dearly and undoubtedly wants the best for me
- She can be very snobbish
- When questioned, she never has any constructive advice - it's all just magically supposed to fall out of the sky onto my head
- She complains I'm secretive, never share my feelings - gee, I wonder why?
There was also lots of talk about her friend S (four years older than me) who has just married a specialist engineer, is pregnant, and has moved to the US to have a fantastic life as a wealthy housewife
Am I being unreasonable to feel hurt and that she has unrealistic expectations?