I'm think of my dps parents here, but I'm sure that there are lots of couples in this situation.
The mum works 40 hours a week, the dad works roughly the same but in a higher paid job.
The mum does everything house related, all of the cooking, cleaning, gardening, decorating, sorting of presents in her free time. It has also been suggested that the dad complains if the mum looks 'scruffy' and expects her to be dressed and keep herself smart. You get the picture, the dad enjoys his hobbies, goes to the pub, goes on weekends away with his free time.
They seem very happy though and have a comfortable lifestyle and an active social life together. So it obviously works for them.
But even though it's non of my business it bothers me slightly.
One reason it bothers me is because it's rubbed off on my 'd'p, who never had to lift a finger when he lived at home, and thinks the cleaning fairy goes round picking things up. Having said that he has got a lot better and does a lot more after many discussions and battles, but I still feel that there's something inside him that thinks certain things are women's work. And that if he works hard during the week then his free time should be for him and housework should not impose on it. So basically I feel that it's not a great message to pass on to your children.
The other reason it bothers me is because I can't get my head around a grown adult just allowing someone to wait on them hand and foot, when they've both worked a long week at work. The expectation that you'll have a cooked meal and a clean house all provided by someone else. I don't think I could happily just leave all domestic chores to my partner unless I was ill, I'd feel lazy and unhelpful.
Do I have a point or is it each to their own?
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Sockstealer · 07/11/2014 17:11
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