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to not want her to come round again?

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ChoochiWoo Thu 06-Nov-14 16:14:15

Yesterday a woman (middle aged) and im assuming her mum, came to view the house well turned up at my house with no warning to me, no Est. Agent as far as I was aware Wednesday has been suggested we'd said no and Saturday was agreed on. Well apparently there had been some crossed wires, my kids were both really ill as well so unfortunately O wasn't in a position to let her pop in and I explained this, well that was it, the abuse gates opened , its all my fault , (it wasnt even remotely) i said sorry for wasted time shes fine to come back at weekend, "don't be so stupid im self employed can't keep taking days off!!!!,.oh you're unbeliveable fuckin timewaster ive come all the way here" i said to her as far as we were aware it was Saturday, and my kids were poorly anyway, i shut the window sick of the tantrum and she tried opening the back garden gate to go in, i heard and opened the window again, aghast at the nerve but they went eventually. Btw im renting, having to move soon, after reporting the mix up and horrendous behaviour to the EA , she said there was no agreed time and shouldn't have come but will be coming back, .hmmshocksad give me strength. ...AIBU to think her behaviour was unacceptable therefore shouldn't be allowed to? At least until we leave.

ChoochiWoo Thu 06-Nov-14 16:15:35

Sorry long!

26Point2Miles Thu 06-Nov-14 16:16:57

Tell then she was aggressive and swearing in front of children. You won't let her back. End of

Fattyfattyyumyum Thu 06-Nov-14 16:17:19

Doesn't sound like the kind of person you want to get involved with. Tell the EA to buck their ideas up

LaurieFairyCake Thu 06-Nov-14 16:18:53

You don't have to let her in at all.

And I would take great pleasure in not doing so. Ever.

They cannot visit if you say no.

KingJoffreysBloodshotEye Thu 06-Nov-14 16:21:17

No. She's aggressive with poor manners.

She can view it when you've moved and your children aren't there to witness her behaviour.

GoEasyPudding Thu 06-Nov-14 16:34:09

I would consider this to be a very serious incident indeed. That EA needs to understand now and today that there will be no viewings for that person again.

Ring them up now and if they don't grasp what you are saying then you inform them that you will involve a community police officer as she was trying to force entry!

DancingDinosaur Thu 06-Nov-14 16:39:47

I would say no. They will have to arrange when you have moved out. You are paying rent for the enjoyment of your property and you do not have to put up with abusive behaviour in your own home, or anywhere else for that matter.

tethersend Thu 06-Nov-14 16:46:28

I'd be paying the neighbours to hold a burning-mattress-death-metal party at about the same time as her viewing.

ChoochiWoo Thu 06-Nov-14 16:50:34

Haha tethersend, thanks for replies i was wondering if i was being over sensitive about the whole thing for a moment.

Raininginnovember Thu 06-Nov-14 16:53:37

I think she was awful and I don't think YABU but I do think the ea were very rude not to notify her that plans had changed, and if they didn't know I think you should have contacted them.

It doesn't remotely excuse her behaviour but imagine if you had travelled a long way to view a property and someone said no - I would be annoyed especially if I lost money because of it.

Vycount Thu 06-Nov-14 17:00:55

Drop letter into agent stating that you are entitled to quiet enjoyment of your home and as this woman was abusive to you there will be no more visits from her while you are in residence. Tell them that if she arrives again, with or without them, you will call the police.
Then call the non-emergency number and log this incident with the police, tell the agent you are doing this.
If she turns up again, follow up on the threat without hesitation. She tried to force entry ffs!

Vycount Thu 06-Nov-14 17:02:16

Raininginnovember - screw that! I can well imagine a wasted journey and if I'd been in that situation the EA would have got it in the neck. I wouldn't have verbally abused the existing tenant or tried to force entry to the property.

ChoochiWoo Thu 06-Nov-14 17:06:52

I did feel bad at first but when I found out she wasn't told to come, I was more angry.

AnnieLobeseder Thu 06-Nov-14 17:08:42

Raininginnovember - we're currently relocating 2 hours away and house-hunting is a nightmare. However, even if I was faced with a wasted 4-hour round trip (and associated petrol costs) due to a mix-up at the EA, I would never think to be abusive to the people living in the house we were supposed to be viewing. I would politely explain my situation and ask if there was any way at all we could have a look round even if it wasn't the best time. But to start immediately hurling abuse as soon as I heard "sorry, now isn't convenient". Never!

Vycount Thu 06-Nov-14 17:10:43

Well op, you know what you can do if you don't want her round again.

Raininginnovember Thu 06-Nov-14 17:13:17

Hey - I said that the OP wasn't unreasonable in not wanting her back and that her (the woman) was out of order!

I just don't think the EA is blameless either.

ILovePud Thu 06-Nov-14 17:14:59

What a horrible experience for you and your kids, I would make it clear that I wouldn't have her around again. She sounds unhinged who'd want her as tenant!

Vycount Thu 06-Nov-14 17:16:37

"It doesn't remotely excuse her behaviour but imagine if you had travelled a long way to view a property and someone said no - I would be annoyed especially if I lost money because of it."

Sorry Raining, misunderstanding. I thought that it read as if you thought some sort of reaction was justified.

Raininginnovember Thu 06-Nov-14 17:27:26

I did say I thought she was awful and that the OP shouldn't have to let her in again wink

ClawHandsIfYouBelieveInFreaks Thu 06-Nov-14 17:31:38

Put it in writing to the agent OP. I've been in your shoes.....letting multiple people into my house to view (rentals) and it's awful without that kind of behaviour.

YOU have the right to enjoy it in peace and that includes refusing viewings when they are not convenient. A viewing from her will never be convenient.

Bearbehind Thu 06-Nov-14 17:34:27

Can the EA conduct the viewing when you are out?

She was very rude but I don't think you can stop a potential new tenant visiting your property as it's likely to be in your tenancy agreement that you have to allow viewings prior to you moving out.

ClawHandsIfYouBelieveInFreaks Thu 06-Nov-14 19:44:49

Yes you can Bear. Tenants have the right to refuse ANY viewing which is not convenient for them.

However, in OPs shoes I would tell the agent when I plan to be out and suggest as you say, that the loopy woman visits then.

But it is important for tenants to know....they do not have to agree to anything. It is their home.

70isaLimitNotaTarget Thu 06-Nov-14 19:52:27

If you do let her view while you are out (but moved moved out) insist that the Estate Agent accompanies her every second

Bearbehind Thu 06-Nov-14 19:56:31

claws I don't think the OP can claim that there is not a single possible time when a viewing wouldn't be inconvenient, particularly if other viewings (not this woman) are accommodated.

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