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dontknowwhatnametopick Thu 06-Nov-14 12:47:53

I have been seeing my DB for almost 7 months now and in October it was his birthday. I decided that I would take him away for the weekend. I made the effort to look for somewhere really nice and paid quite a bit of money for the room for the 2 nights. I am on a pitiful NHS wage and quite high rent and also have a DS who is alomst 5 so money is tight, dipped into savings for this as I really wanted to do something nice for him. This weekend also fell on our 6 month anniversary.

So on the 2nd night I had booked a lovely restaurant took him out for a birthday meal and he produces me a gift of ear rings telling me its to mark our 6 months, lovely I thought, a guy has actually made the effort to go out and do something like this.

I then find out that there has actually been no effort at all he has bought them off groupon for next to nothing. I am not pissed off at how much they were I am pissed off for the little effort.

When we have date nights we do use groupon and thats fine but AIBU to think that when its for something a little special then some fucking effort should be made!!!

MamaDoGood Thu 06-Nov-14 12:54:26

He did make effort confused
Choosing, ordering and paying for the earrings. He obviously see them and thought 'OP would like them'

Don't be ungrateful.
You are on a limited budget yourself, you should understand.
Poor bloke !

NoRoomInTheInn Thu 06-Nov-14 12:54:55

Hey, you got a gift. He had the thought to choose and buy them for the 'occasion'.
Don't you like them? Do you expect an expensive gift every few months?

soulrebel63 Thu 06-Nov-14 12:55:18

What you mean is you think he should have spent more money. It's probably more effort to buy them through Groupon than to go striaght to the shop and buy them.

You'll be lucky to be celebrating 1 year together if you're that shallow.

FrauHelga Thu 06-Nov-14 12:56:08

You sound like you have very high expectations of a partner.

HighwayDragon Thu 06-Nov-14 12:57:25

You're dating your brother? !

RainbowCake Thu 06-Nov-14 12:57:35

Well to me effort and cost are 2 completely separate things.
Yes maybe he could have gone out to a high street shop and spent twice as much, but I think the thought is the same really. He thought of you and bought something he thought you would like for your anniversary.

HighwayDragon Thu 06-Nov-14 12:58:17

oh wait <penny drops> db means boyfriend?

CleanLinesSharpEdges Thu 06-Nov-14 12:59:00

Make the most of them, I doubt there'll be a 1 year anniversary.

meoverhere Thu 06-Nov-14 13:00:15

6 months isn't an anniversary.

Don't be so bloody high maintenance.

BigPawsBrown Thu 06-Nov-14 13:00:39

Why is it more effort to order online or walk into a shop than to order on Groupon?

basgetti Thu 06-Nov-14 13:01:07

He sounds sensible. You on the other hand, a lone parent on a tight budget spending your savings on your new boyfriend, do not.

LaurieFairyCake Thu 06-Nov-14 13:01:16

You've made a mistake

It was HIS birthday so you did something special for him.

A 6 month anniversary is nothing so it was an EXTRA, not a real thing like a birthday.

Yackity Thu 06-Nov-14 13:01:42

You bought an expensive gift for his birthday. His BIRTHDAY.

This was a 6 month anniversary, not even a real anniversary for heavens sake. He bought you some nice earrings and you're moaning about it? Wow, just wow......

Oh and YABU, YABFU.....

slanleat Thu 06-Nov-14 13:01:50

I totally agree with the others. In my eyes he made an effort and you are simply turning your nose up at the fact that he spent less money on them than you thought he should have.

Its six months ... not six years...

UncrushedParsley Thu 06-Nov-14 13:02:40


FrauHelga Thu 06-Nov-14 13:04:29

Is this a reverse?

PeppermintPasty Thu 06-Nov-14 13:05:04

CleanLines that made me snort!

mymummademelistentoshitmusic Thu 06-Nov-14 13:06:15

Poor bloke. Hope he sees sense and finds someone less shallow.

gamerchick Thu 06-Nov-14 13:06:32

He did go to the effort.. He saw them and thought of you. There is no such thing as a 6 month anniversary.

It does sound as if you're setting the bar for celebrations though. If he doesn't go to so much trouble for you on yours, will it matter?

TheWitTank Thu 06-Nov-14 13:07:52

Good grief! You are moaning because you got a present on HIS birthday?! 6 months isn't an anniversary. YABU and high maintenance. You were not forced to spend money you didn't have, you could have done something cheaper.

UptobedNOW Thu 06-Nov-14 13:08:07


How much and what sort of effort are you expecting? Mining diamonds himself then hand crafting them into a perfect representation of his love for you? hmm

dontknowwhatnametopick Thu 06-Nov-14 13:08:34

My point is I dont have a big budget but something special was coming up (his birthday) and I have spent my TIME and EFFORT in finding somewhere and paying for something I didnt neccesarily have the money for because it was going to special for him.

He has made out that he has gone to extreme effort to do this for me and it turns out he actually hasnt, thats my point, thats not me being high maintenece!

As I said above the price does not bother me in the slightest it was the lack of effort when he said he had made loads of effort

calculatorsatdawn Thu 06-Nov-14 13:09:07

So he saw something, thought you'd like them, and so he bought them?

What a total fucking outrage. Never mind being pissed off, the European Court of Human Rights needs to know about this sort of caper.

NewEraNewMindset Thu 06-Nov-14 13:10:10

I do agree that you shouldn't be spending 'savings' on a boyfriend when money is tight and you have a small child. For that alone YABVU.

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