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to still be at work when DS has been sick?

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Mammanat222 Wed 05-Nov-14 10:07:51

He is with his Daddy.

OH said DS was sick (twice) but isn't "ill" as such? He has eaten a little, isn't hot, seems OK in himself.

I am a 10 minute cab ride from home.

AIBU?

atticusclaw Wed 05-Nov-14 10:09:42

Erm, no….he's with your DH

I'm assuming this is PFB?

Get used to it. If you leave work every time your DS is poorly you won't be employed for very long.

capsium Wed 05-Nov-14 10:14:27

Ah his dad can fuss over him. Added to this, if you are only 10 minutes away you can always pop back in your lunch hour, if you are really concerned. smile

LIZS Wed 05-Nov-14 10:15:11

it doesn't take 2 to look after a sick child.

Eva50 Wed 05-Nov-14 10:16:37

Bless smile

SavoyCabbage Wed 05-Nov-14 10:18:29

No yanbu. It wouldn't cross my mind that either dh or I would or should come home when dc is ill and she is with the other one.

HighwayDragon Wed 05-Nov-14 10:19:32

yanbu. If you were the man this question wouldn't even be asked.

DearGirl Wed 05-Nov-14 10:20:25

I am a nanny. I text my boss when the kids are ill. But I don't expect them to come home.

LingDiLong Wed 05-Nov-14 10:22:07

Blimey no YANBU. He's with his Dad!

Gileswithachainsaw Wed 05-Nov-14 10:22:10

He's with his dad. Why are you even asking.

It's not a favour. He's his dad

Mammanat222 Wed 05-Nov-14 10:22:43

Just feeling a wee bit guilty

I have left him ill with Daddy before but sometimes they just want their Mummy?

Yes he is PFB blush

MollyBdenum Wed 05-Nov-14 10:24:52

YANBU. Refusing to collect him from nursery would be unreasonable. Carrying on working while he is in the care of someone he loves and trusts who is able to care for him is perfectly sensible. Feeling a bit sad that you aren't there to look after him is also ok.

Mammanat222 Wed 05-Nov-14 10:28:21

Thanks Molly X

whatever5 Wed 05-Nov-14 10:35:32

I'm amazed you're even asking the question. Is this your first child and have you only just gone back to work?

skylark2 Wed 05-Nov-14 10:37:35

He doesn't need two parents looking after him for a bit of a sick bug.

hatsybatsy Wed 05-Nov-14 10:40:26

YANBU

Boomtownsurprise Wed 05-Nov-14 10:40:39

I'm not amazed you're asking the question. It seems a human question; child sick, should I be there? Do I need to be there? Fail to see why needs gendering or loading with periphery issues.

If you want to be there, be there. Take pm as hol. Or stay home tomoz. Or leave hour early and get treats for tea. What would you like to do?

Mammanat222 Wed 05-Nov-14 10:41:29

First child, been back almost 12 months.

Yes I am pathetic, I actually feel better the more pathetic I am told I am being.

BarbarianMum Wed 05-Nov-14 10:41:37

When they are ill lots of children want their mummy. However it is really good for your ds to learn that he can rely on and take comfort from his dad when he's poorly (and when he's not too sick is the perfect time to try this). There will be times when for whatever reason (work, another child, being sick yourself) that you can't be the one to care for him.

Mammanat222 Wed 05-Nov-14 10:43:37

Will see how DS is at the day progresses and take it from there.

Have told manager I could be called away.

This will give you all a laugh.

First time DS was ever ill (sickness) OH had him but rang me in a right panic. I jumped in a cab home and yes two of us "nursed" our PFB together.

Mammanat222 Wed 05-Nov-14 10:45:05

Excellent point Barbarian, DC number 2 is due in a few months.

Also to add that I am mildly phobic of sick so probably not the best person you want around?

His Dad is much better at all this anyway.

dreamingofsun Wed 05-Nov-14 10:48:43

you have made provision for your son, and he doesn't sound very ill anyway. focus on your job. thats what your are being paid for. Fine to let work people down if its an emergency, but a slighlty sick child who's in good hands hardly applies. Sorry to be blunt - but hopefully that will make you feel better still. we can't fight for feminism and equal rights and then run back home at the first bit of sickness

OhYouBadBadKitten Wed 05-Nov-14 10:49:30

Plus if your dh is looking after him you are less likely to catch it! Tummy bugs are even less pleasant when you are pregnant.

whatever5 Wed 05-Nov-14 10:50:30

BarbarianMum People are amazed at the question because it is clearly not practical or necessary for both parents to take time off work every time their child is sick.

whatever5 Wed 05-Nov-14 10:52:42

Sorry I meant to direct that at "Boomtownsurprise", not Barbarianmum

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