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What would be the best response to this?

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extremepie · 02/11/2014 16:33

I

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ginslinger · 02/11/2014 16:34

Am unable to complete a sentence

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BatsCantTwerk · 02/11/2014 16:34

? (that is my best response) Grin

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ChippingInAutumnLover · 02/11/2014 16:35

We

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ChippingInAutumnLover · 02/11/2014 16:35

II

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BorisBaby · 02/11/2014 16:36

My self

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LuisSuarezFangs · 02/11/2014 16:36

Spy?

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MyHovercraftIsFullOfEels · 02/11/2014 16:36

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FiftyShadesofScreeeeeeeam · 02/11/2014 16:37

I I I I I I I I I
Shoulda known better

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KarinMurphy · 02/11/2014 16:37

I, I, I, I, I, I love you very much?

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Whereisegg · 02/11/2014 16:38

..wish I was a little bit taller, I wish I was a baller.

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Catsize · 02/11/2014 16:39

Comes after H.

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basgetti · 02/11/2014 16:40

FiftyShades you have just inspired me to watch Jim Diamond on youtube, I had forgotten what a great song that was!

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Catsize · 02/11/2014 16:40

Or, judging from many threads, I comes after DH...

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FiftyShadesofScreeeeeeeam · 02/11/2014 16:41

Basgetti, also check out his classic hit Hi Ho Silver. It'll move into your ear and remain there for a very long time.

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Castlemilk · 02/11/2014 16:43

started a thread

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extremepie · 02/11/2014 16:43

Oops posted too soon!

Posted recently about df's (friend) ex bu about child support money.

On the back of this, last night her and her new bf were messaging him the whole evening saying some really offensive, nasty stuff about him (and about me incidentally but I'm not bothered about that).

Most of it revolved around his looks for some unknown reason. He has ginger hair so you can imagine some of the insults hurled in his direction.

I can only assume that they are unhappy about the outcome of the child support conversation so are now taking the opportunity to be as spiteful and horrible as possible.

Wibu to stick up for him? Not to engage in a slanging match but just say something along the lines of 'I think it's really childish that you've resorted to taking the piss out of df's looks because you're annoyed with him. The grown up thing to do would be to talk to him about why you're unhappy and try to resolve it rather than making personal insults'.

I know it's none of my business (well, it kind of is since they were also slagging me off) but I just want them to know that I have his back so to speak. I think sometimes bullies pick on certain people because they think no one will call them out on their behaviour and I just want to show them that this is not the case.

Wibu? What would be the best response or should I just leave it?

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Notmeagain1 · 02/11/2014 16:45

Me

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BuckskinnedAstronaut · 02/11/2014 16:45

Leave it. Or you could try just texting "I".

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Nomama · 02/11/2014 16:48

Yes, you need to leap in and tell your friend, face to face, no texting, to save all the nasty texts, just in case he needs them at some future date.

Then you need to leap again and tell him, face to face, no texting, that you are there to support him, but he really needs to stop reading, let alone sharing these texts with you.

I am guessing you know all of this but, just in case in needs repeating...

THEN you can butt out and leave the 2 childish horrors to get on with it and your df to his Sunday night.

Smile

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VileStatistyx · 02/11/2014 16:55

just leave it.

By responding, you lower yourself to their level and somehow in their mind it will become you all having a row. They will use any response by you or him as reason in their mind to carry on hurling insults.

By not responding, they can carry on having a fight all by themselves, showing themselves up for the arses they are. Let them giggle about how clever they are and just be happy that you are more grown up than that.

Get him to save the texts, in case they come in handy in the future, if it gets to the point where he wishes to involve the police.

I would imagine that they WANT a rise. They WANT replies. They are poking and poking and you would give them great satisfaction by replying anything. Imagine how much it will piss them off that he and you don't care enough to reply.

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Showy · 02/11/2014 16:55

You support your friend by supporting your friend. You don't challenge the witless to do this. It won't help except to make you feel better very fleetingly.

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GoodboyBindleFeatherstone · 02/11/2014 16:58

Say nothing to them, but encourage your friend to build up a case for harassment.

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extremepie · 02/11/2014 17:00

Arrrg is just difficult because I am so angry at the both of them!

He is a good person and doesn't deserve that. I saw the look on his face when he read those texts and he was really hurt although to tried to pretend he doesn't care.

I'm pretty sure he's put up with similar pisstakes and insults his whole life :(

Just don't want them to feel like they've 'gotten away with it' but also don't want to lower myself to their level hence my desire to take the high road with my comments and not descend into throwing shit back at them even though I kind of want to :/

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extremepie · 02/11/2014 17:01

Good boy, at what point can you start involving the police just out of curiosity? I wouldn't have a clue how to go about it if it came to that :/

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VileStatistyx · 02/11/2014 17:38

Just focus on talking to him. Don't waste your energy on them. A fight is what they want.

You need to tell him that he's a good guy. Give him a hug and tell him that they are pillocks.

The best advice you can give him is to not take it to heart, to learn to recognise it as something wrong with them, not him.

As you help him to build his confidence, he will care less and less about it and be able to see it as an attempt to hurt him.

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