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To feel sad I won't be able to speak to my dd for weeks

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Nativity3 Sun 02-Nov-14 14:37:23

I feel rather emotional today, dd is going away today for work for quite a few weeks and I won't be able to contact her. She could contact me if she needed to but I won't have any means to contact her or know how she's doing etc.
it's not the first time she's done it and I know she's always well looked after but even when they grow up you still worry about them.

AIBU to feel emotional? Normally I am not so bad but due to some changes in family circumstances it feels harder this time.

Feel free to tell me if I Abu and give me a virtual slap and tell me to stop moaning or tell me it's okay to feel like this.

DiaDuit Sun 02-Nov-14 14:41:05

I understand this. Exp was forces and sometimes this meant i couldnt know where he was being sent and we had no contact for up to 12 weeks. He said i would be contacted if anything happened to him but that didnt help tbh. It was an awful feeling. Not sure if your DD will be in similar circumstances but i get what you are feeling. It's not nice at all, especially if you are used to just being able to pick up the phone and chat. How many weeks is she away for?

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks Sun 02-Nov-14 14:46:15

YANBU at all. If you are used to being able to just ring her up when you just want a chat, or pop in to see her, being forced to stop all contact for a long length of time is going to be tough.
The fact you are so down about it shows how much you value your relationship - that is a good thing.
I think it is totally normal even with grown up children.
I hope the time passes quickly and your DD is back in contact/home soon xx

NotALondoner Sun 02-Nov-14 14:49:11

Can you email her? Even if she can't read them where she is, she can read them later and you can still 'tell' her things.

Nativity3 Sun 02-Nov-14 14:49:13

Thank you smile

She lives at home at the moment so her not being here feels even more pronounced.

She will be away for 6 weeks so at least I'll have her home for Christmas! grin

Nativity3 Sun 02-Nov-14 14:50:41

I could email her but she won't have any access to the internet so I really would be talking to myself.

She's done this for work on numerous occasions in the past (not always this long though) and she can't understand how this is any different to previous times (which I suppose for her it's not!)

DiaDuit Sun 02-Nov-14 14:54:38

I would still email and then she has them all to read when she gets access to them. I remember when exp was on normal duties he would phone when he could and i never remembered all the things i had to tell him so he suggested i email him as they happened/came to me and we could talk about them on the phone when he called. It worked for us and emailing, even though i knew he wouldnt get it for a while, felt like i was talking with him and i could imagine his reactions etc.

Nativity3 Sun 02-Nov-14 16:29:13

Thank you, I will definitely do that!

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