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Toastonmarmite Sun 02-Nov-14 12:50:47

Short version. Looked after SIL's 3 children last week for the whole afternoon - not a problem, they're delightful and love spending time with them! Later in the evening I sent her a text just to say we'd had fun etc, short and to the point. She didn't reply to ask how they had been, never said thanks or any contact at all. Is this strange to you? I think it's bloody rude. Puts me off helping out again.
AIBU?

NorksAreMessy Sun 02-Nov-14 12:53:16

YANBU

BustyCraphopper Sun 02-Nov-14 12:53:26

Didn't dhe say thank you when she picked them up? That's a little odd....

ApocalypseThen Sun 02-Nov-14 12:53:37

And what did your brother say?

DangerousBeanz Sun 02-Nov-14 12:54:33

Yep. Bloody Rude. She should have said a simple thank you.

CaptainAnkles Sun 02-Nov-14 12:55:48

Did you see her when you dropped them home or they were picked up? That would be the time to discuss how they'd been, usually

AliceLidl Sun 02-Nov-14 12:56:06

It does seem rude and ungrateful but it could depend on why you had them.

If she was going to a medical appointment or some such she might not really be feeling well enough to reply right away, or not thinking clearly enough to realise she hasn't contacted you to say thanks.

2fedup Sun 02-Nov-14 12:58:52

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

PuppyMonkey Sun 02-Nov-14 12:59:46

Is SIL your DH's sis or your brother's wife?

Who picked up?

She might not have got text you sent. But she should still say thanks.

Bearbehind Sun 02-Nov-14 13:01:09

How did the kids get home? Did anything get mentioned when they left?

It is a bit strange but communicating by text often causes problems as they don't always get through.

pictish Sun 02-Nov-14 13:02:26

It depends. Who organised it in the first place...and who picked the kids up, or was there when you dropped them off? Did that person say thank you then?

Marcelinewhyareyousomean Sun 02-Nov-14 13:07:13

Your DH's sister or brother's wife? I don't expect my dsis's husband to say thank you. I don't mind my sis not saying anything straight away; if I help it's because they are busy or ill.

I'm on the fence though. One if my ils is attached to their phone and it would be rude for them not to fire a response back when they live in the virtual world.

Toastonmarmite Sun 02-Nov-14 13:21:15

DH's sister. She was at work. They were passed on to other relatives after my 'shift'.

ohweeeell Sun 02-Nov-14 14:20:56

YANBU that's bloody rude

pictish Sun 02-Nov-14 14:22:38

Ok yes. Rude.

TinklyLittleLaugh Sun 02-Nov-14 14:48:28

Good lord, I must piss people off all the time. I don't look at my phone from one day to the next.

scarletforya Sun 02-Nov-14 14:52:26

Very rude.

Icimoi Sun 02-Nov-14 14:54:03

Depends - did she thank you when she picked them up? Probably no need to keep repeating it if so.

Mrsgrumble Sun 02-Nov-14 14:56:35

Totally rude and ungrateful. It's not a case of looking at the one, she should have phoned you first to thank you.

mumeeee Sun 02-Nov-14 15:17:30

Perhaps she didn't see your text, I know I"ve missed texts before

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Sun 02-Nov-14 15:20:59

RUDE! She should have been texting YOU, not the other way round!

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Sun 02-Nov-14 15:21:26

Ici RTFT!

mimishimmi Mon 03-Nov-14 04:35:52

It's rude. Was this a one-off babysitting request or are you providing her with regular free childcare?

wowfudge Mon 03-Nov-14 06:14:14

I fail to see the relevance of whether she is DH's sister or brother's wife.

Given the circumstances as the children weren't returned to or picked up by a parent, then yes she should have thanked you. If she's busy or not well, is it possible she said to whoever had them after you (on the basis you will see or speak to them), "Will you thank Toast for me?" Then hasn't checked her phone.

Blu Mon 03-Nov-14 06:22:57

Is she a single parent? If not Perhaps their father should have said thank you and it is him being rude for not acknowledging childcare for his kids?

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