DH and I are toying with the idea of DC4. DH is happy to stick at the 3 we have but is equally happy to have another if I want one.
The thing is, I hate being pregnant (suffered from SPD/PGP and HG in both pregnancies, also gained A LOT of weight both times). Also DC2 and DC3 are fraternal twins so there is the chance of having another set. I love love love my twins but I really don't want to do twins again to be honest. Also aside from the 'look how cute' and the new baby smell I actually don't want to do the newborn thing again (sleepless nights, faffing with feeding, the stupid amount of gear required to lug around)
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I don't feel my family is complete. I want another child, another sibling for the DC as they grow up. I'm one of 2 and wish there was more of us. DH is an only and the stress of dealing with his ill parents with no-one else to help is crushing him. I want them to be a 'gang' as they grow up and to support each other through adulthood (my mum is one of 6 and I love their dynamic). I know its not a given that siblings will get on but the more there are the better chance of at least having one they get on with each!
DC1 is nearly 5, DTs are 2.5, the plan is to start trying in January so new baby will arrive once DTs start pre-school in Sept. wouldn't want to leave it any longer as I don't want a massive age gap. In the last few months I have got to the point where it is so much easier going out and about with them all and fitting it all in, so I would be rocking the boat massively.
so would I be mad to put myself (and my family) through another pregnancy when it would be hell for about 3 years??? (until DC4 reaches the nice age the DTs are now!!)
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QueenofKelsingra · 01/11/2014 11:02
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