to be annoyed at dp

[danker126]

My DP cousin has been living in our home for a few months. Hes young and looking for work. We are happy to help him get on his feet. My problem is my DP and his cousin are never off the xbox. 2 weeks ago i actually had to ban it for a day as i hadnt been able to sit in my livingroom and relax watching anything i like. Its now got to a point my DP is staying up 2 or 3 hours after me playing this when normally we would go to bed together. AIBU to think its not hard to join me and stop waking me up every night?

[Ipigglemustdie]

Could you get them headphones or set up another telly? Or wait untill nobodies there and wrap it in a towel and switch it on untill it overheats or pour water on it?

[Fanjango]

Uhm. I can see it could be annoying but how is it waking you up? If its him being noisy then he could easily sort that. There is no need in a normal relationship for partners to ge to bed at the same time every night, unless they want sex

[WorraLiberty]

Is there only 1 TV in the house?

If so then YANBU to want your share of it.

He shouldn't have to go to bed when you tell him to, but he also shouldn't be waking you up when he chooses to go.

[danker126]

Its not the noise of tv waking me up but im a light sleeper and he wakes me up coming to bed. For the past few years we always go to bed catch up on the day look online at stuff and have a cuddle. Its always been our time together. We do only have 1 tv at home. Dont have them in bedrooms or dining room.i suppose im just fed up im still awake at half 12 because if i fall asleep and get woken i find it hard to get back to sleep and im up at 6am for work

[MrsTerrorPratchett]

When is the cousin moving out? Is he really looking hard for work?

[WorraLiberty]

You need to insist that he stops waking you when he comes to bed.

I understand that for the past few years you've had 'your time together' at bedtime but for whatever reason, he obviously doesn't want that now.

Could you sit down and work out a compromise? A time in which to agree the gaming stops?

[danker126]

Hes got an interview on Monday. He was medically discharged from the army and moved to scotland a little lost i think.i dont mind him being here and he does his fair share. I just think 5 or 6 hours xbox a night is alot to deal with.

[danker126]

Worra i guess its something i can talk to him about. Hes perfectly happy to not play xbox when his cousins not here. Im maybe just over tired

[WorraLiberty]

No I don't think you should blame yourself for being overtired. I think you have a valid gripe.

But I'm just thinking that he might see his cousin (and therefore Xbox kindred spirit) as a bit of a novelty that he's never had in the house before.

Kind of like if I had my niece staying with me and she was really into Mumsnet or something.

I think there is a middle ground that you two can find here and perhaps you should talk about finding a compromise.

[danker126]

I think you are right. Im going to chat with him tomorrow. Onlt getting 4 or 5 hours sleep is not enough for me. Thanks