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Responsibility when looking after DC?

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perfectlyincapable Fri 31-Oct-14 12:08:19

Need honest views here as my opinion of ExDP is tainted.

ExDP moved out yesterday, fairly amicably but due to his EA behaviour. I said he can have his DD for the day/night with him as his mum wanted to see her.

This morning I get a call that DD is very constipated in a lot of pain and there is blood in her poo when she did go, so I told him to take her to the doctors (after I phoned them and arranged to sit and wait).

Two hours later I have just phoned him for an update and he is only just on his way there now, I'm pissed off as he rang me to ask what to do and I offered to pick her up and take her, I wish I had now two hours when she is in pain is a long time (DD is 13mths).

Then it dawned on me, he answered his phone and spoke to me whilst he is driving with DD in the back, he has no handsfree kit.

AIBU or is he a complete dickhead?
Seriously considering going down the doctors picking her up and telling him he isn't responsible to look after her by himself so he can look forward to supervised contact only from now on?

For background info, he very rarely looks after her by himself since she was born as he gets stressed easily and annoyed because he doesn't know what to do or show any interest in learning.

Thebodynowchillingsothere Fri 31-Oct-14 12:16:58

He doesn't sound great does he! Hope your dd feels better.

Balaboosta Fri 31-Oct-14 12:54:10

If he only moved out yesterday you've got lots of work ahead to establish regular contact arrangements with your dc and the terms of that contact. There'll be a lot of emotional content going on here so I'd say do tread carefully, stay as calm as you can under the circumstances and pace yourself. Good luck.

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