This plays on my mind a lot, as I think it was/is a terrible thing for a parent to say to a child. My mum, however, thinks that she is perfectly justified.
When I was about 16, a local girl of my age that I knew, was in a car accident when the car was being driven by a teenage boy, and was paralysed. Her family rallied round and have been absolutely amazing over the years. At the time, when it was all in the local papers, my mum said to me several times that this girl was lucky that her family were being so lovely, because if I had been that girl I'd be on my own as no way would she and my dad look after me.
Over the years this girl's name occasionally crops up (she has done some amazing charity work locally), and again my mum has said several times that this girl is lucky her family have looked after her, as I'd have been left to fend for myself in her position.
The thing is, I know my mum really truly means it AND thinks that it's an ok, normal thing to say to your child. She and my dad have always been very cold and were very strict when I was a child.
But for some reason this really gets to me. I think it's because it's sort of confirmation that she really doesn't give a shit about me.
I had a nervous breakdown several years ago and my mum didn't speak to me for a year. Just thought I'd add that in too.
AIBU?
To think that this isn't something that normal, loving parents would say?
eeeralluuuu · 30/10/2014 21:23
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