I have various family issues unfortunately I have been saddled with a very difficult bunch. as the oldest child to parents with their own demons I somehow ended up in the role as parent to the lot of them at a very young age and have spent a lot of time trying to let go the feeling of responsibility i have towards them.
so two weeks ago my dad attempted to drive his car drunk with my dd and my niece I stopped him and tried to keep the atmosphere light and got the kids sorted to leave his house.
I then received a torrent of abuse full of vile language in front of the kids and he told my dd she wasn't welcome in his house and neither was i. apparently im a huge source of pressure in his life and cause nothing but problems. this isn't true of course but no point arguing. I left saying not to speak to me again unless it was a sincere apology to firstly my dd and then to me.
I know that won't happen as whenever there have been arguments in the past he goes to bed for a few days plays the poor me act and waits for the person he argues with to talk to him first to keep the peace and once they do he begrudgingly responds and a few days later it is all forgotten about. usually that person is me as I take the brunt of most of his bad humours.
well this time it's just gone too far for me. my dd was really upset and I don't agree with the way he treats other people in front of her. it isn't a healthy attitude for a child to feel is normal. I have a zero tolerance policy towards drink driving and it scares me that he wanted to drive the kids in that condition.
my dd is now really upset as despite all this of course she really loves her grandad. my mom has just left my house and is taking his side and just wants me to talk to him again for a quiet life. i may allow my dd to go there accompanied for short periods of time as long as she never gets in his car and there is no animosity shown in front of her. I could trust my sister to do this.aibu to never want to speak to him again?
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mommy2ash · 30/10/2014 14:32
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