Dh and I have just sorted out next years holidays. Week away type affair. The difference between this and most families idea of sorting out their holidays is that DH and I are going on 2 different holidays. We are going at different times so that one of us will still be home with DS while the other is away. We do also plan to arrange probably a few days break with DS, or a staycation type break where we just have days out but stay at home.
Many people apparently think this is weird for a variety of reasons. Firstly that im 'allowing' DH to go on a lads holiday (stag do) with his best friend of 20-odd years and he is friends best man. Secondly that im a mother and will be leaving my then 19 month old at home for a week WITH HIS FATHER, thirdly that ill be away on my birthday and that's not fair on DH or DS, fourthly (is that a word?) that its strange that we don't want to holiday together (im going skiing, DH doesn't ski, and its unlikely that ill be invited on the stag do), and finally that poor old DS 'wont get a proper holiday'.
Now ok DS wont get a 'proper' holiday but he isn't even 2 years old! a trip to the local farm is amazing to him and we do still plan to do something with him so he wont totally get left out. I honestly don't see why we shouldn't have separate holidays doing what we want individually rather than a compromise holiday for both/all of us. Is it really that weird that we want to stay individuals as well as be part of a family?
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Are DH and I being unreasonable to holiday separately and without DS?
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BauerTime · 29/10/2014 15:35
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