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Grimserenasereaper Wed 29-Oct-14 14:42:36

My dcs have been invited to a Halloween party. It says birthday on the invitation, but I'm told the child's birthday was in September. AIBU to not want to give a 6 year old a birthday card 6 weeks or so late?

eosmum Wed 29-Oct-14 14:46:20

Ds birthday is July, last year due to various reasons he had his birthday party at Halloween. No his fault, he'd have been disappointed to have no cards for the window sill after his party. So I think yabu.

littlemslazybones Wed 29-Oct-14 14:47:22

Just get a card or get your kid to make one.

LadyLuck10 Wed 29-Oct-14 14:47:52

Yabu. What's the reason for not wanting to give the card?
A card is so cheap, can even be made. Would be very mean not to.

sosotiredagain123 Wed 29-Oct-14 14:48:49

Give a card

WooWooOwl Wed 29-Oct-14 14:48:52

If it's a birthday invitation, then I'd give a card and a present the same as normal.

It doesn't really make much difference whether it's a Halloween themed party or a pirate and princesses themed party or a power rangers themed party. Guests at birthday parties give something to the host.

It is a bit odd to have the party so far away from the actual day, but we have had to leave a couple, of weeks in between birthday and party because my dcs birthday is in the middle of the school summer holidays. I'd think people were rude not to bring something for ds just because of that.

Chippednailvarnish Wed 29-Oct-14 14:50:38

Ds's party wasn't held until the Monty after his birthday as we were away. Stop being so mean.

Chippednailvarnish Wed 29-Oct-14 14:51:05

Monty = Month

Grimserenasereaper Wed 29-Oct-14 14:51:41

It seems odd to me to give a birthday card when it isn't the child's birthday.

littlemslazybones Wed 29-Oct-14 14:53:18

Well write 'Have a spooky birthday' and move on with your life.

WiseKneeHair Wed 29-Oct-14 14:53:46

YABU, birthday parties are rarely on the actual birth date. My DS is having his party 10 days after his birthday this year, but he would be disapointed not to get cards from his invitees and presents. If it's a birthday party, then I don't see why you wouldn't give a card, regardless of the actual birthday date.

littlemslazybones Wed 29-Oct-14 14:56:54

Or write 'Really, two birthdays? Come on, who are you? The Queen?' That'll show them.

BlueberryWafer Wed 29-Oct-14 15:18:25

It's not his fault his mum is hosting his party 6 weeks late - not giving him a card is punishing him for something out of his control! Besides there may be a reason why his party wasn't closer to his birthday.

Evabeaversprotege Wed 29-Oct-14 15:23:08

My nephew didn't get to have his party as my sisters chemotherapy appointment fell on the day it was planned for.

He had it two weeks later.

summersoft Wed 29-Oct-14 15:23:08

Will it be so difficult to get a card? A party to celebrate his birthday so long after the even may not be your cup of tea. Could you not just put these feelings aside because someone else sees things differently?

farewellfigure Wed 29-Oct-14 15:29:12

You could find a Halloween card and say 'Have a great party' if you'd feel happier with that. Paperchase do them (hideously expensive mind).

Grimserenasereaper Wed 29-Oct-14 15:46:53

I do already have a card (and a present). I was actually thinking that it might confuse the child more than anything.

waithorse Wed 29-Oct-14 15:50:40

Yes, give gift and card. It's still a birthday party, even if it's late.

FavaBeanPyramidScheme Wed 29-Oct-14 16:11:59

YABU. There are worse things to be confused about!

WorraLiberty Wed 29-Oct-14 16:14:10

Why would a 6yr old get confused, if you brought a birthday card and present to their birthday/halloween party?

livelablove Wed 29-Oct-14 16:17:30

My dd made a card for a friend who has an Xmas birthday and has a party in summer. Being rather literal she wrote Happy Birthday Party on it.

elfofftheshelf Wed 29-Oct-14 16:17:47

Its a child's party. Get him/her a card! It doesn't have to say birthday!!

AdoraBell Wed 29-Oct-14 16:23:40

I know a child who always has her birthday party 5 months early because of the climate here. She isn't confused about it. She knows that on X date she has a party to celebrate her birthday but on her birthday she has a special meal with the GPs and extended family.

I think YABU and it sounds mean to refuse to give a card and gift to a child. That may not have been your intention but it still seems mean.

Grimserenasereaper Wed 29-Oct-14 16:32:29

Worra because it isn't their birthday?

hiddenhome Wed 29-Oct-14 16:32:49

Ffs, it's just a card. Perhaps somebody died or was diagnosed with a terrible illness and the family weren't up to celebrating at the time hmm

Does it really matter?

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