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AIBU?

Husband sulking is he BU?

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mumof2wonderfulboys · 18/09/2014 07:46

My 4 year old bought a doll in the supermaket last night which my OH was very unhappy about, he says dolls are for girls, he doesn't appreciate the toys he's got and expects too much.

Last night he told our son he is f*cking furious and this morning has ignored him every time he has tried to speak to Daddy.

Is this behaviour being unreasonable?

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ThinkIveBeenHacked · 18/09/2014 07:48

Err yes it is and you know that. What are you going to do about it?

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Sirzy · 18/09/2014 07:48

Of course he is being unreasonable. On more than one level.

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Coughle · 18/09/2014 07:49

No, it's actually called being emotionally abusive. Has he done this before?

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Triumphoveradversity · 18/09/2014 07:50

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Ledkr · 18/09/2014 07:50

He said those words to your 4 yr old?
He's an abusive cunt and a sexist one too.
I'd be out the door.
Sorry.

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Sunna · 18/09/2014 07:50

He's horrible, what are you doing to protect your son from this creep?

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CheesyBadger · 18/09/2014 07:52

Disgusting behaviour. Your poor son. What are his grounds? I mean what harm does he think a doll will do? Oh no, your son is learning to be loving, caring, empathic and imaginative. Disaster!

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TestingTestingWonTooFree · 18/09/2014 07:52

Awful behaviour.

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mumof2wonderfulboys · 18/09/2014 07:54

Triumph, yes he did, those exact words. Silence is his way of showing dissaproval :(

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Vitalstatistix · 18/09/2014 07:55

He actually said to a 4 year old "I am fucking furious"? Over a doll?
And now he is giving the child the cold shoulder?

And you even have to ask if he is unreasonable? There is doubt?

yes. He is unreasonable.
furthermore, it is abusive to treat a child like that.

imagine how terrifying it must be to a small child to be ignored when trying to interact with their parent. How insecure they feel.
it is cruel , it is nasty.

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TheWanderingUterus · 18/09/2014 07:56

I take it your husband never once held your son as a baby.

Judging by his behaviour your son will not be learning how to be a good dad from him, just as well your little one got a baby doll to practice on instead.

Oh and your husband is a prize winning, shit stained, cockwombling dickhead.

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MidniteScribbler · 18/09/2014 07:56

You have to ask yourself, is this how you want you son to grow up, being emotionally abused by this man?

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JustALittleBitLost · 18/09/2014 07:56

I would be out the door too. How upsetting. Please defend your son from this horrible behaviour.

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KatnissEvermean · 18/09/2014 07:57

Your husband sounds like a horrible man. It is awful to treat a child like that.

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Vitalstatistix · 18/09/2014 07:59

You should read the stately homes threads.
read the views of people who are now adults , how they feel about their parents, how their parents fucked them up.
what your husband does now to that child, that child will be dealing with for a long time. That's why we all have a responsibility to be the best parent we can be.
that means no effing and blinding at them and no silent, anxiety creating, treatment.

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GilesGirl · 18/09/2014 07:59

Wow. Your husband is a dick.

Does he have any good qualities?

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treaclesoda · 18/09/2014 08:00

I loathe sulking, it's so childish and selfish. But sulking with a child? What an arse.

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Itsfab · 18/09/2014 08:01

What a twat

Your poor son

My child had a doll AND A BUGGY and guess what, he isn't gay!! Because we all know that it is the possible reason he has for this twattiness. buying him a doll might turn his son gay.

Abusive
Pathetic
Thick
Immature
Vile

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JohnFarleysRuskin · 18/09/2014 08:02

That's not sulking or unreasonable. It's really really horrible.

Your poor little boy.

Does your DH often behave like this towards the children?

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LadyLuck10 · 18/09/2014 08:03

You really even have to ask???

And your title seems to be about your husband and his feelings rather than about your poor son who doesn't deserve this Hmm

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shushpenfold · 18/09/2014 08:03

Good grief. I don't usually join in with the 'dh did something wrong' threads but he is displaying abusive behaviour and I would be having some pretty serious words with him and also considering personally as to whether I wanted to observe this kind of abuse for the next 30 years.

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ilovepowerhoop · 18/09/2014 08:05

did he ever carry your ds as a baby? Did he push him in his pram/buggy? Your son will not 'turn gay' by having a doll and yes he is being unreasonable (and mean and nasty)

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Aherdofmims · 18/09/2014 08:07

Horrible behaviour. If he doesn't change and apologise and ensure it never happens again you will have to leave.

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simontowers2 · 18/09/2014 08:08

Nice partner you got OP. Good luck with that one Confused i. Is he the real dad?

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scarletforya · 18/09/2014 08:10

Silence and stonewalling are a form of emotional abuse OP. It is very damaging. To do it to a child is psychologically cruel. I'd hate to think of the effect it is having on your son.

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