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To be mildly concerned at school putting girl's knickers on DS1 after a toilet accident?

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RachelWatts Mon 15-Sep-14 21:23:24

DS1 is 5.4 and just started Y1.

Despite being dry in the day for quite a while, he has recently started wetting himself - I suspect a UTI so will be booking him a GP appointment tomorrow.

After apparently having an accident at school, someone gave him a pair of girl's knickers. They are pale pink with a picture of a cute dalmation on.

Normally I wouldn't mind - they're only pants - but he had an after school sports club which meant he had to get changed in front of his classmates, some of whom would not hesitate to point it out and ridicule him.

Even worse - his own wet pants are nowhere to be found. DS1 thinks the TA might have put them in another child's bag by mistake. Mortified!

NickNacks Mon 15-Sep-14 21:26:02

Did you send him with spares in his book bag? Considering his recent increase in accidents I'm presuming you did so maybe ey just couldn't find them.

Passmethecrisps Mon 15-Sep-14 21:26:13

What else could they have done? Nothing bad happened - pop spare pants in his bag next time. No issues

DancingDinosaur Mon 15-Sep-14 21:26:14

The pink pants were obviously all they had. I wouldn't be particularly fussed about it at his age. I'd probably keep quiet about the wet pants going missing grin

Myhusbandishardwork Mon 15-Sep-14 21:26:15

I think its better to have knickers on than no underwear at all. The school im guessing wont have a good range of spare clothing.

If your son has started wetting himself then i would make sure he had a bag on his peg which is clearly label with spare clothing in.

Passmethecrisps Mon 15-Sep-14 21:26:59

Oh yeah! The lost wet knicks grin

Just brazen that one out

Permanentlyexhausted Mon 15-Sep-14 21:28:43

Well, I guess they hand out whatever pants they have to hand. I can see it would be horrid if other people then saw and teased him though. Perhaps you could send a spare pair in for him (in a bag to hang on his peg or to keep in his PE kit bag) in case of future accidents?

greensnail Mon 15-Sep-14 21:29:57

Dd1 came home in spare boys pants a couple of times, I just sent in some girls knickers for them to keep as spares for the class (I didn't want to send her with her own spares as I didn't want her to think I was expecting her to have an accident).

LadyLuck10 Mon 15-Sep-14 21:30:14

I'm sure their concern was getting him a pair of underpants than thinking of him being laughed at. Have you sent extra clothes? I don't see that they did anything wrong.

threepiecesuite Mon 15-Sep-14 21:32:08

DD has occasional accidents at school (still not dry at night at 4.5)
I've put spare knickers in her PE bag which stays in school.

Floggingmolly Mon 15-Sep-14 21:32:14

Why aren't you sending him in with his own spares? They obviously just used what they had, what did you expect them to do? confused

LapsedTwentysomething Mon 15-Sep-14 21:33:01

Surely to goodness they would have a spare pair of boys' pants and the sensitivity to use them. I would hope this is thoughtless and unintentional but they should appreciate the potential for humiliation, particularly on top if the wetting.

Aeroflotgirl Mon 15-Sep-14 21:33:48

When I was 6 I had an accident at school and was sent home in boys y fronts

mooth Mon 15-Sep-14 21:34:05

It's not really very important, is it?

Aeroflotgirl Mon 15-Sep-14 21:34:43

No biggie really, I wasn't traumatised .

Primafacie Mon 15-Sep-14 21:35:19

I can't see what the fuss is over 'girl' knickers. DD wore boys' undies for all of reception because she was obsessed with dinosaurs. No one batted an eyelid.

septemberbirthstonesapphire Mon 15-Sep-14 21:35:32

I think there's a difference between a girl in boys pants and a boy in girls.

Thebodyloveschocolateandwine Mon 15-Sep-14 21:36:52

Hi TA here.

Obviously you look for boys/girls pants in an accident but it's not a shop! It's a school and there are
only so many spare pairs to be had.

I have had to give girls boys pants and visa versa. They can't go without. grin

The wet ones may be still on the toilet floor In a bag, or your ds may have lost them changing for footie.

After school activities arnt supervised by TAs as most are only paid until 3.
Don't overthink this op it happens all the time, so put a spare pair on his peg and don't worry.
Hope he is sorted soon but honestly it's par for the course at 5.

Tauriel1 Mon 15-Sep-14 21:37:23

When I worked in a school, it was common for the spare pants given by school to never be returned. They were probably the only ones they had left.

ILovePud Mon 15-Sep-14 21:38:37

Your poor DS, hope he didn't get teased. I'd give them the benefit of the doubt and assume that was all they had, perhaps they had a run of boys having accidents that day. My little boy often used to get sent home from nursery in girls' clothes (floral jeans not full on frilly dresses) I used to wonder whether they did it to make sure I didn't take a liking to them and pinch them! I had sent spares in for him btw but they kept going astray.

jackstini Mon 15-Sep-14 21:39:22

This happened to DS - it was at nursery but he was 4.6 so not much difference in age. He can't remember now if it's any consolation.
Agree it was awkward re after school activity
Def make sure he has some spares in his bag just in case

CalamitouslyWrong Mon 15-Sep-14 21:39:54

Why is there a difference between a boy in girls' pants and a girl in boys' pants? DS2 had been put in girls' pants after accidents at nursery/school (one or both, can't remember). I didn't think to worry. He just laughed about having to wear knickers because there was nothing else.

Once during toilet training at nursery they had to put him in a skirt because they'd completely run out of spare trousers in his room (and he'd exhausted the spares I'd sent in). I thought it was pretty funny rather than anything else.

GiveTwoSheets Mon 15-Sep-14 21:40:50

I can't help but think my DS would of been mighty impressed having a pair of pink pants/knickers with picture on.

Would you of preferred it if he had to get change with no pants on at all or left him in wet pants?

Perhaps send in spares in future or donate some obviously school are short of spare clothes

SoonToBeSix Mon 15-Sep-14 21:41:27

My ds got sent home from nursery in hot pink tracksuit pants last week . He is only two and had a big smile in his face when I picked him up.

ContentedSidewinder Mon 15-Sep-14 21:42:33

I have worked in a school and we even sharpied in massive writing that these pants belonged to the school, and yet we don't get them back. Why a parent would keep pants with the school name emblazoned on them is anybody's guess.

So if you have a girl and boys pants are all they have, then that is what they are given.

As a lovely gesture, if children grow out of pants, please donate them to the school.

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