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To not want to be told to 'man up'

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fishdishwish Tue 02-Sep-14 23:42:04

To be fair, no-one has actually told me to as yet, but this phrase really makes my skin crawl.

It seems to play up to every stereotype and dusty cliché about what constitutes 'manly' behaviour.

I'll just stay here and quietly finish this slice of quiche if you don't mind....

KingJoffreysBloodshotEye Tue 02-Sep-14 23:44:53

Oooo, I love quiche.

And I agree. Weird phrase. No one tells angry, muscley, overpowering men to 'man down'.

70isaLimitNotaTarget Tue 02-Sep-14 23:50:41

Oooh I dunno.
I read these adverts on Gumtree (usually guinea-pigs for sale) where someone whitters selling because the kids have lost interest or "we have a dog now, kids don't want them^

and I really really want to text them and say "Tell your kids to Man the Fuck Up and take some responsibilty. And Dog. Look out, you'll be next" but I'd probably get arrested.

Bulbasaur Wed 03-Sep-14 00:01:52

Well, what alternative would you like people to use?

You can't take a common phrase and then not provide an alternative.

"Put on your big girl panties" is just as demeaning if you think about it.

StercusAccidit Wed 03-Sep-14 00:04:21

Now, ''woman up'' grin

Or 'grow a pair' (of ovaries)


TyneTeas Wed 03-Sep-14 00:06:09

"Grow up" seemed to cover it when I was a kid...

gamescompendium Wed 03-Sep-14 00:08:37

Grow up is definitely the best option. But this is a great opportunity to use this quote "Why do people say 'grow some balls'? Balls are weak and sensitive. If you wanna be tough, grow a vagina. Those things can take a pounding."

FreeSpiritsBadAttitude Wed 03-Sep-14 00:13:59


MaMattoo Wed 03-Sep-14 00:17:03

a little off the topic..but have you seen the 'run like a girl' video that went viral?

mollypup Wed 03-Sep-14 00:31:41


Spartak Wed 03-Sep-14 02:51:27

Grow up doesn't mean the same as man up though.

daisychain01 Wed 03-Sep-14 04:41:17

I really like the video, mamattoo, it hit home.

If truth be known we shouldn't really say "grow a pair" as much as we do on MN because it's just as bad as saying "run like a girl", it does resort to gender insults.

But I will admit to chuckling at grow a pair of ovaries

daisychain01 Wed 03-Sep-14 04:42:48

How about "Act your age not your shoe-size"

Cornettoninja Wed 03-Sep-14 06:22:07

I have been known to use 'put your big girl pants on'. In my defence I've only ever used it when the recepient has been whining over something ridiculous. It's not something I'd say to anyone actually in the midst of a crisis.

partialderivative Wed 03-Sep-14 12:14:07

Bite the bullet?

bonkersLFDT20 Wed 03-Sep-14 12:23:12


I hate that term. I see it quite a bit within the running circles I mix in e.g. when it's pissing down with rain, or we have a muddy cross country to run.

From my own experience the women and men are equally tough.

Also, as a Mother of two sons I do not want them to think that being a man is about being stronger and tougher than a woman and conversely that women are not tough. I just want them to be strong and tough regardless.

[overuse of the word tough!]

Zip up your man suit is the same.

nb. I do acknowledge that men are in general physically stronger than women and I'll get my great 15 year old to do things that I can't do, but that is entirely different. It's a physical thing, NOT a mental thing.

BeachyKeen Wed 03-Sep-14 13:26:53

We say "Suck it up, Buttercp!"

jellybelly701 Wed 03-Sep-14 14:30:36

I quite like this phrase blush I used it quite a bit back in my ACF days.

Smilesandpiles Wed 03-Sep-14 15:54:02

"Get on with it" - is a phrase I live by.

PenisesAreNotPink Wed 03-Sep-14 15:56:41

I say 'Woman up' to dd quite a lot.

That's because women have desirable practical skills.

I told her to woman up last night when picking dog shit up.

sillystring Wed 03-Sep-14 15:58:49

A woman I work with uses this phrase around 30 times a day. I am thoroughly sick of it. She's a big, loud bully.

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