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Parents. Don't take secondary kids INTO school buildings on the first day

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lordnoobson Tue 02-Sep-14 17:17:19

They'll be fine. Really. Car park tops. Or even (gasp) hmm let them go alone.

WorraLiberty Tue 02-Sep-14 17:18:35

I wouldn't bloody dream of it! shock

Do people really do this?

lordnoobson Tue 02-Sep-14 17:19:55

They waited in the foyer. I know! So two hundred kids exiting for y7. Some parents thought they needed to come in right to the door.

Poor poor kids !

SquirrelWearingATrilby Tue 02-Sep-14 17:20:27

shock Really? My children were happy to get the bus and never have me go near the school (apart from when needing a lift home, unwell of course)

lordnoobson Tue 02-Sep-14 17:21:30

I know. Car park chaos. Some bright the whole family along

Groovee Tue 02-Sep-14 17:21:46

I let mine go off with their friends and we live just across the road!

TaliZorahVasNormandy Tue 02-Sep-14 17:22:10

Omg, I'd never do that, I'd be furious if my Mum did that.

HemlockStarglimmer Tue 02-Sep-14 17:24:41

I'm trying to do that with my ten year old. She likes me to come in. I've already broken it to her gently that she's on her own in two years time!

ilovesooty Tue 02-Sep-14 17:25:57

Unless you live miles away or your child has special needs that make travelling alone problematic I don't see what justification there is even to take them to school, let alone go in with them. Poor kids.

TheDeathOfRats Tue 02-Sep-14 17:29:52

I did drop DD off at secondary, but that was because of an accident on the bus route and it was on my way to work anyway. But even so, it was a ten minute walk away when I dropped her off. Must've been quite worrying for the other Yr7s as they'd been given a really big speech about not arriving late, detention for arriving late, zero tolerance etc and on their first day, most of them were arriving half an hour past the bell.

Both DD and DS wouldn't have wanted to be seen dead with me, near secondary school.

Idontseeanysontarans Tue 02-Sep-14 17:31:33

I've just tried to imagine DS's reaction to us going in with him on his first day - children can divorce their parents can't they?

BoysiesBack Tue 02-Sep-14 17:31:43

shock People did that?

My DS starts secondary next year, admittedly I have a little gulp when I think of him crossing the (very busy & scary) main road out of our village and getting the bus on his own, but I would never EVER take him even to the bus stop never mind into school.

lordnoobson Tue 02-Sep-14 17:33:05

When at junior school it's ridiculous. The other kids don't need thirty adults in there every morning

Oakmaiden Tue 02-Sep-14 17:34:24

Ahem. I took my son right into school today. And he is Sixth Form.

But. He has Asperger Syndrome, and was very anxious about being in the right place.

essexisnotallitseems Tue 02-Sep-14 17:34:41

The head teacher at our school makes a point of telling the parents that they need to go no further than the gates, and let the children walk into the school themselves - she positions senior members of staff at the entrances to wrestle any over-anxious parent to the ground....

AllotmentQueen Tue 02-Sep-14 17:37:16

We live sandwiched between two secondary schools - I am constantly astounded at the number of precious little darlings who need to be driven to school EVERY day, and collected, by mummy. And, of course, mummy needs to park within three feet of the school gates because apparently teenagers around here can't use their legs hmm.

When do these kids EVER learn to be independent!

Dreadedsunnyday Tue 02-Sep-14 17:37:23

All of mine made their own way to school via bus and/or walking in year 7 but I helped the younger two do a couple of practise runs before the first day (oldest had friends going to same schoo). It's daunting coping with a journey as well as all the other new stuff.

wilddogbert Tue 02-Sep-14 17:39:35

My DD started today and she would have killed me if I had even suggested going to the door with her.
She got the bus today with her friend and she loved it.
(Though I did walk past the bus stop taking DS to school just to check she wasn't still there)

wigglybeezer Tue 02-Sep-14 17:41:00

Could be worse, I will never forget the poor boy sent to our High school wearing grey school shorts on his first day. He is probably still talking to his counsellor about it.

HumblePieMonster Tue 02-Sep-14 17:41:14

We had parents bring children to the tutor room, not just on the first day. 11-16 school.

Shodan Tue 02-Sep-14 17:43:33

I don't see the problem.

DS1 is starting uni in a few weeks. I fully intend to hold his hand all the way into his lecture hall for the first week at least.

My secondary school was a 30-minute train ride away. No chance of my parents being there on the first day grin

ValerieTheVodkaFairy Tue 02-Sep-14 17:49:06

Oh Christ. The shame!

We had the parents in their 4x4s, fighting with the school buses at the turning circle at my school....

There was a very large catchment area. Lots of us lived well over 20 miles away from school. Funnily enough, we were unceremoniously plonked on school buses at 7.30am from Day 1. The 4x4 parents were always those who lived five minutes away from school....

Nomorefilm Tue 02-Sep-14 17:50:49

See I'm really worried about my DS he doesn't start high school until next year but at the moment there is no way he would be able to get himself there on his own. He is so young for his age though, what kind of things can I do to get him ready?

Idontseeanysontarans Tue 02-Sep-14 17:55:25

Nomore they really do mature mostly in year 6 - my boy walked to school on his own anyway and closer to the start of the new school year he did practice bus rides and walks to his new school. The first couple of times we followed to make sure his atrocious sense of direction didn't land him somewhere else but he managed it fine. Going in a group of friends would help, especially if there was an older friend or sibling in the group.

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