Long sorry!
Dsis seems to have had a mental breakdown over the last few years after a very stressful time in her life. She decided to accuse our DM of physical and emotional abuse in her childhood, and the worst thing was that my father, her stepfather, had sexually abused her as well as an older sibling. She is in her early 40's and none of this had ever been brought up before. Although not close to the rest of us, she attended family events and everything was fine. We were all in shock as she also accused my mother of almost killing her when she was a teenager by strangling her to unconsciousness. This is an utter lie.
She was seeing a therapist at the time for panic attacks and had been diagnosed with OCD. She had also been in contact with her bio father who left my mother when Dsis was a toddler. He was a violent alcoholic so DM moved away after their divorce to be free of him and his family. He has told her lots of lies about DM refusing contact (he did not bother to turn up) and throwing stuff he sent for birthdays/Xmas in the bin.
We believe all this come about due to this and her looking for something to blame her poor life choices on. She has not worked due to her mental state for a few years and had to move into council accommodation. This all started after the birth of her last (5th) child which she was not in a financial position to afford and we also think PND was involved. Her 2nd Dc was stillborn and she can't seem to get over that.
DM was devastated by all this as was DF so they took the decision to have no further contact with her, as have the the rest of us siblings as we are disgusted at how she has upset the whole family. This was after a lot of time trying to sort things out with her but she would not back down and admit she was lying. She also borrowed a lot of money from my parents and told them not to expect it to be paid back as it is due to them that she has had to pay for a therapist and they owe HER with the amount she's had to spend!
Recently she has said she is seriously ill and almost at death's door to manipulate us to contact her. AFAIK this is another lie but no one has been to see her to check this out. She also accused my DM of sleeping around when she was married to her bio father so asked if he was really her father. More lies she got from him.
We have a family wedding coming up (niece) which she has not been invited to for obvious reasons and she has been harassing family members for the bride's address on the pretence of wanting to send her flowers to wish her well but we are worried she will try to turn up on the day and cause a scene.
We have not seen her DC since this has been going on and I worry about them quite a lot what with her mental state. We think she is deranged. WIBU to alert SS to this so they can check on them?
If you have got this far, this is a reverse thread and yes, it is all true.
Are THEY BU? I do actually worry that I really AM mad although I have assured by people more qualified in this field that I'm not .
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AIBU?
To think that my sister is mentally ill and be concerned about her children's welfare?
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PixieHollowDweller · 29/08/2014 00:52
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