There's a lot of history and jealousy from pil that my parents see my dc more than pil. Yes they do. Dm lives an hour and a half a way but makes lots of effort and asks for dc so sleep over etc mil complains she never sees them but any effort we make to arrange visits are huge hassle for them as they are 4 hours away and mil won't drive on motorways so fil gets too tired. He's in his early 50s and 10 years younger than my dm.
We are having a party on Sunday pm for 70 people. I am catering for it myself. Mil, fil are staying at ours the night before but have announced they expected to have lunch ours with our 3dc plus dh's grand parents, bil and sil. so 11 people in our home just before a big party. Dh said all can come in the morning but by 12 everyone can pop to a cafe or pub as we'll need space to get ready. Dm and df are coming just before the party as dm has helped making cakes and it will be their only chance to give dc their birthday gifts but they are not eating lunch, also using df's car for transporting stuff. I also have other relatives from my side coming to the party who will have travelled similar distance to pil but they are not coming to the house. There isn't space which is why the party is on the hall.
Mil is sobbing and thinks we're being unreasonable to not want a house full of people for the run up to the party. Bil understands and has tried to act as UN intermediary but with little success.
Mil thinks I'm pushing her out but I'm just trying to save my sanity. I'm giving them a brunch and there is food for a late lunch at the party.
aibu selfish dil? I am really upset she's upset but just feels like she switches on the tears to get her own way.
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m0therofdragons · 28/08/2014 18:00
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