Will try to keep brief and answer any questions
I have epilepsy
I also had an horrific birth about 18 months ago where I did not feel supported by Dh at all. He was not on my side at all and kept yelling at me to calm down. i felt totally bullies by the midwifes and him. After the birth which resulted in forceps and massive hemorrhage the midwife turned to DH and said "well done for bulling her". He was that taken up with DS when he was born that he did not even here the doctor say "if the bleeding does not stop you will have I make some decisions". He also has no idea how much blood I lost as he was not taking any notice.
Since then I have just wanted to be left alone by the medical profession and have not followed up epilespy appointments as I should (some got cancelled and I did not make new ones) I just needed a break from all things medical. I have also admitted to pretending to make an appointment when I didn't. No excuses for that all at I just couldn't go through with it.
Fast forward to now and I have admitted this after being interrogated by him. He is now saying he does not know if he has the strength to support me if I don't support myself.
I have explained time and time again why I did what I did and told him I did not feel supported during the birth.
He said he does not know if he wants to be with me and we should wait and see. In the meantime he has moved into the spare room. Tonight I was having a bath and he will not come in the room.
Since the discussion I have made all my appointments. My parents have even offered to pay for me to see a private consultant in Liverpool as he specialises in my type to epilepsy but DH made that much of a fuss about taking me that I cancelled it.
I know what I did was wrong and I deserve to be hauled over the coals but does it really merit a marrage end.
I have been uncontrolled for 15 years and he know when he married me.
I want to cry
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downindumpsbutok · 22/08/2014 20:49
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