wearing white dress to an engagement party

[Mindyourownb]

acceptable or faux-pas. Please help settle an argument.

[Mindyourownb]

if you are a guest.

[LookingThroughTheFog]

A wedding dress? No.

Any other white dress? Fine.

My opinion is that we can't all bin all white clothes because someone else happens to be getting married at some point in the future.

[bebebringingup]

Its not the wedding, wear the dress!

[FryOneFatManic]

I don't even have a problem with someone wearing a white dress at a wedding. As long as it's not a wedding dress (excepting the bride).

[WooWooOwl]

I wouldn't wear a completely white dress, or even a predominantly white dress tbh. There are enough other colours to choose from and like it or not, white is known as being the bridal colour.

I think it would come across as attention seeking to wear the bridal colour at someone else's engagement party.

[OwlCapone]

It may be the bridal colour but there is no bride at an engagement party.

I think it's fine.

[callamia]

It's fine. Why wouldn't it be?
I'm also fine with wearing a white dress to a wedding - if it's not overtly bridal looking, who cares?

[indigo18]

Absolutely fine; whatever will folks think of next!

[TestingTestingWonTooFree]

I hate guests in white at weddings but would think it was fine at an engagement party.

[LadyLuck10]

It's fine at the engagement party. Use accessories to break it up but I think on it's own will also be fine.

[KnackeredMuchly]

I wouldn't

[BumpNGrind]

Wear it, its fine. Although I'd think that you turned up wanting to be the bride.

[HaPPy8]

I think this is ok and i say that as someone who wouldn't wear a white dress to a wedding. An engagement party is completely different in my eyes.

[QueenBean]

White dress = absolutely fine.

If you wear a lacy garter and a veil to match that might be going too far.

[PigletJohn]

instead?

[Jelliebabe2]

Not white or completely black at the wedding, but wear what you like at the engagement!

Maybe not nipple tassles!

[chubbyhez]

Fine at a party but why on earth do people insist it's ok to do at an actual wedding?

[SinglePringle]

I would think the wearer wanted to be the bride / proposed to / wanted to attract attention away from the Bride to Be if at an engagement party.

I would think this doubly at a wedding.

[Montegomongoose]

I don't think you'd be breaking any etiquette rules whatsoever.

Any engagement parties I've been to have been quite dressy smart affairs, so just look nice.

And don't shag snog the groom obviously.

[ChickenMe]

My friend's SIL wore a white dress to my friend's wedding. Not only that but it was a skin tight sleazy type dress! The SIL was already married so she had had her day.
I think white to an engagement party is a bit off. White is quite a statement colour. Usually you have to be slim and tanned to wear it so you might be taking attention away from the bride to be.

[mrssmith79]

I say fine. However, when drink has been taken I find that white dresses never stay white for long (speaks the red wine tainted voice of bitter experience).

[indigo18]

Seriously, some of you need to get a grip! Why on earth would wearing a white dress be taking attention from anyone, at an engagement party?? What imaginary 'rule' is this? As for 'usually you have to be slim and tanned to wear it', well really what rubbish! I'm so glad I'm (middle) aged and past all this fear of 'thunder stealing' or loss of attention.
Ffs, if the OP is slim, tanned and gorgeous it doesn't matter what she wears, she will still be a guest, not the engagee!
I showed a friend a photo of DD looking fabulous at a Uni Ball in a white dress and she launched into this sort of rubbish -' oh, look at her, wanting to be a bride!'; no she just liked the dress!

[BumpNGrind]

Indigo, a uni ball is quite different to an engagement party though.

[EElisavetaofBelsornia]

So presumably it's only me who thought, engagement party?? That's a thing? With a dress code? Blimey, me and then-DH-to-be just told people we'd decided to tie the knot.

[indigo18]

Bump really, thanks for letting me know! Trust me, there is nothing wrong with wearing a bloomin white dress at an engagement party! It's just a party! What next- don't wear a dress the colour of the dresses that the Bridesmaids-to-be will wear for fear of stealing their thunder, or looking as if you want to be a bridesmaid?? Madness. Wear the white dress.