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To be reluctant to hire MIL as a cleaner?

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ihaveadirtydog Sun 17-Aug-14 20:28:15

I would love a cleaner-have no qualms about employing someone to do the bits that I don't like/don't have time for.

DH isn't so keen as he doesn't see the need-he wouldn't as he doesn't appreciate that there is more to keeping the house clean than a quick wipe of the surfaces and a vacuum every so often.

He is however wiling to consider paying his mum who works as a cleaner anyway, his rationale being that she is trustworthy and he'd rather her have the money than a stranger.

I don't think it's a very good idea though-for one if I wasn't impressed with the way a cleaner had done something I'd like to think i could raise it with them and I could direct a 'stranger' more easily than mil (who I don't dislike but am not close)

Plus there is the idea that she could find things that I'd rather she not see-paperwork, private items etc-you get the idea.

Squitten Sun 17-Aug-14 20:29:12

I wouldn't

Preciousbane Sun 17-Aug-14 20:30:57

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ImperialBlether Sun 17-Aug-14 20:32:38

No way!

Floralnomad Sun 17-Aug-14 20:33:35

I agree with you ,I have a friend who runs her own cleaning company and I wouldn't employ her for similar reasons to yours.

Tikimon Sun 17-Aug-14 20:33:44

I'd be jumping on the nope train to fuckthatville.

Never do business with family.

Also, you don't want MIL snooping through your stuff and asking about it later. It's too invasive.

shoofly Sun 17-Aug-14 20:33:55

Shoot me now!! Never ever

Mumof3xox Sun 17-Aug-14 20:34:06

God no

Poofus Sun 17-Aug-14 20:34:14

God no.

ohfourfoxache Sun 17-Aug-14 20:34:15

Not a chance!

Poofus Sun 17-Aug-14 20:34:42

X-posts with the "god no"s!

wowfudge Sun 17-Aug-14 20:34:56

You know you are right. Bad idea for all the reasons mentioned and more.

jellybean87 Sun 17-Aug-14 20:36:13

No way, for all the reasons mentioned.

SmallBee Sun 17-Aug-14 20:36:26

Nope nope nope nope nope.


BloodyClarey Sun 17-Aug-14 20:37:46

Maybe don't do any cleaning for a week. DH will surely see how filthy it gets and how quickly and will come round to your way of seeing things. Also NO BLOODY WAY. Never mix business and family/friends. Disaster waiting to happen.

Janethegirl Sun 17-Aug-14 20:39:15

No never in a million years for all the reasons you have given

BrokenCircleBreakdown Sun 17-Aug-14 20:39:31


thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter Sun 17-Aug-14 20:40:30

^ what everyone else said

Castlemilk Sun 17-Aug-14 20:41:21

No. Never.


Be utterly firm. It's a Very Bad Idea.

HibiscusIsland Sun 17-Aug-14 20:41:23

No for the reasons you have given.

ICanSeeTheSun Sun 17-Aug-14 20:41:27

No way, I love my Mil and get on very well but if there is a problem it will not stay professional but turn into personal problem as well.

SweetsForMySweet Sun 17-Aug-14 20:42:35

No way would I have my MIL as a cleaner, I get on fine with her but wouldn't feel comfortable with that arrangement at all

DurhamDurham Sun 17-Aug-14 20:43:08

Never mix business with pleasure, sure to end in disaster. She may clean what she thinks needs cleaning rather than what you want her to do. Plus it would just feel so wrong to pay a family member.

Gruntfuttock Sun 17-Aug-14 20:55:19

"I'd be jumping on the nope train to fuckthatville."

grin Me too.

prettywhiteguitar Sun 17-Aug-14 20:58:03

Haaaahaaaaa fark no

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