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Naz786 Tue 12-Aug-14 01:17:37

I have two beautiful boys one age 2. Yesterday was his birthday.the other is 6 months. Since I've had my children Hubi has drifted away from me. He goes to work 7am and gets back 6pm just to have a wash and out again. Getting in early ours of the morning.does not help towards the kids in any way. Has his own bedroom saying he needs sleep to go to work in the morning. I have mum dad and brothers who have cut me off, they attend birthdays weddings without inviting me, absolutely no reason given to me for there behavior. Feel alone and isolated

Naz786 Tue 12-Aug-14 01:20:23

I have tried talking to OH he is not Intrested in doing anything as a family and we just don't get on. Feel like taking the kids and going somewhere for two wks but where especially with my two year olds tantrums he is a nightmare

shanewayne Tue 12-Aug-14 01:24:20

Here to hand hold.
where are you thinking of going away to? I have an 18mth old and I can relate to the tantrums smile
could you put him in a nursery for a morning/afternoon to get some respite?
Your dh seems useless, has he distanced himself since the children were born or has he always been like this?

heraldgerald Tue 12-Aug-14 05:58:48

Sorry no fantastic advice from me except to hand hold- two dc at that age is incredibly demanding and isolating but it does get easier. Have you talked with oh? Any other support networks?

paxtecum Tue 12-Aug-14 06:11:00

Naz, could you go off to a Butlins or Haven, where there will be many tantrumming 2 year olds? Or a large caravan site with facilities for kids.

Normally those sort of places don't appeal to me, but a week in a naice hotel or posh cottage on your own with the DCs would be more lonely than being at home.

WeirdCatLady Tue 12-Aug-14 08:27:22

Why does your dh go out in the evenings? Does he work two jobs or is he off socialising?

Another hand hold from me x

MrsWinnibago Tue 12-Aug-14 08:58:42

flowers [tea] Can you go out somewhere nice for the day with the children at all? Even for lunch you have any hobbies of your own?

steviel Tue 12-Aug-14 09:05:07

My children are grown up now but I can relate to how lonely it is when they are young and very demanding physically.
Can you phone your Mum and talk to her? Tell her that you need her support and help? I know how hard it is to ask for help but don't assume that people know that you need some help as people just think that you are coping ok.

Naz786 Tue 12-Aug-14 14:44:53

Thank you so much for your replies they are touching. Hubi I can't be bothered to ask him anymore he has no Intrest in me and very little Intrest in the kids since they were born I've had days out with the kids and had a lady nearby come along hold the lil one while I go and have a play with the older one. I think I need a helping hand and someone to talk to and my mother is glad to see us grow up so she doesn't really take Intrest in kids.

Naz786 Tue 12-Aug-14 14:49:52

Mother in law not Intrested in helping either and I have no sister. From a full time customer service advisor to a full time stay at home mum really exhausting and today just found out I'm expecting again can't cope with the two I have !

ADHDNoodles Tue 12-Aug-14 14:56:09

thanks I don't have any good advice.

Could you see your GP about depression? It sounds like you could use a lifeline right now.

Finola1step Tue 12-Aug-14 15:02:27

Naz, please go to your GP and discuss your situation.

heraldgerald Wed 13-Aug-14 23:15:06

Another see the gp from me. It's a real struggle when they are so young. I really feel you should ffocus on getting support networks around you, any one else you could turn to? Old colleagues maybe? I really relate to the shock of going from full time work to full time parenthood.

Is there any way of telling your h how you are feeling and getting more support? Congrats on new pregnancy flowers

Naz786 Fri 23-Jun-17 07:56:24

Has anyone heard of the GAP diet for autistic kids? Also does fish oil help any advice for a 4 year old autistic boy. Thank you for your advice much appreciated

VeryButchyRestingFace Fri 23-Jun-17 08:03:37

You should start a new thread for this, OP. Your latest post has come up under an old thread/title. smile

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