Lots and lots of history here. In the past I have tried INCREDIBLY hard to please and for in with In laws (especially mil) me and her son are never giving enough, doting enough, being successful enough (he is constantly called a failure). We bend over backwards with family holidays with them, making effort for special occasions and spending quality time with them. It's never enough. All I hear is mil crying and screaming as soon as she doesn't get her own way and I just see a nasty manipulative woman because of her behaviour for the past 2.5 years.
-she asked me to abort my baby
-stormed into our room when we were staying to scream at us about my pregnancy
-booked tickets for a cruise we spesifically said we couldn't go on and then told us we didn't make enough effort on the cruise (not going to list the attempts but we tried so hard to make is special for them as they renewed their vows on board)
- spent the night crying down the phone saying we didn't want to see her because we wouldn't let them take dd on their own, regardless of the fact we offered to meet up all together
- emotional blackmail everytime she's told "no"
- moved abroad after insisting on seeing us ever week prior to this, then throwing a paddy because I don't want them to take dd that they haven't seen in months on their own
- told me she likes to dress dd herself when we stay with them because she "liked to see dd dressed properly"
- constant digs about my weight, dps weight and the way we raise our child
- comments on my clothes, saying I need to dress properly
Oh my the list goes on.
I can't stand them, I don't know how to get it across that I'm happy to spend time with them and dd and do nice things but they aren't taking her alone.
I swear she wants to be my daughters mother, she only had one son because they didn't want to make financial sacrifices for another.
She's taken down photos of her son and replaced them with photos of dd.
Does anyone else's mother in law sleep with a photo of their grandchild next to their bed or is it just mine?