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I posted for support and MNHQ banned me

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CentimeCentime Wed 06-Aug-14 09:16:20

I'm so sorry to post this, I'm not trying to cause trouble, but I feel like I need to come back after my post (regarding trouble coping after my daughter was stillborn) was banned and I was blocked. I have had to create another account to post.

Apparently I was reported as there were some 'inconsistencies'.

I emailed MNHQ back explaining that I was not some kind of troll or fantasist, but someone genuinely looking for help and that all of the responses had provided me with a lifeline. If there were inconsistencies between that post and previous ones, it is because I naturally changed some details to protect my identity but the story was mine. I provided MN with absolute proof that I am a grieving mother to a stillborn child. I hate that I even had to do that.

MN haven't replied since yesterday morning (I've also emailed Rebecca) and I am just so concerned that some of you who posted and shared your stories with me will feel duped and taken advantage of. I hate that you might think this.

I really don't understand what happened and it has caused me no end of additional distress. I really didn't want to post here, but MN are not replying to my emails.

Thank you so so much to everyone who posted, and the poster who emailed me with the most amazing, thoughtful words that got me through the day.

I hope MNHQ might consider replying to my message. I really want the thread back and I want to save all the responses, as they helped so much.

PerpendicularVincenzo Wed 06-Aug-14 09:18:37

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

CentimeCentime Wed 06-Aug-14 09:23:10

thank you, and thank you for believing me. I am sitting here feeling like somehow I have done something wrong. This is truly the last thing I needed.

wouldlikeanother Wed 06-Aug-14 09:25:57

That's really sad - a friend of mine who's daughter passed away was able to use a bereavement website to chat to other parents - they had to provide proof that they were all genuine - and she received lots of lovely support.

I'm ever so for your loss thanks

StillStayingClassySanDiego Wed 06-Aug-14 09:27:17

I didn't read your thread.

I'm so sorry that this has happened, thinking of you.

Aeroflotgirl Wed 06-Aug-14 09:27:41

That is bad, yes I understand Mumsnet have to be on the ball, but they do sometimes make mud takes, this has not helped you at all. Not all peoples lives flow consistently, sometimes when you are upset the account may be jumbled of inconsistent. I am so sorry for your loss flowers, I hope Mumsnet do the decent thing.

wouldlikeanother Wed 06-Aug-14 09:27:55

Ever so sorry* thanks
Is there any support in RL? Perhaps contact Tommy's

I can't imagine what a tough time you're having x

Groovee Wed 06-Aug-14 09:29:25

I think I read your thread but it may have been another one. I hope MNHQ get in touch with you soon.

Alisvolatpropiis Wed 06-Aug-14 09:29:39

I read and posted on your thread. I didn't realise it had been deleted. thanks

CentimeCentime Wed 06-Aug-14 09:29:57

Thanks wouldlike, I'm quite active on the Sands forum, and another one, but sadly they don't get as much traffic as mumsnet. I would typically get something like 5 replies, whereas here I got I think around 100. They were so helpful. I can undetstand MN being vigilant about trolls and people being taken advantage of (in fact I recall a while ago a terrible post about a baby dying that seemed dodgy from the start, but I didn't dare report in case the poster genuinely needed help). I get that. But MN have had absolute verification from me and they did not put my post back.

jellybelly701 Wed 06-Aug-14 09:30:09

I remember reading one thread few months ago and wondering whether it was my RL friend posting. It turns out it was. Her story was completely true (I had witnessed it all myself) and she was getting helpful advice from posters.

Without warning MNHQ zapped the thread and removed her account because they had some concerns. She made a new account to thank everyone for their advice and that thread and account was zapped too.

I'm sorry for your loss. Please do not let this distress you further.

itiswhatitiswhatitis Wed 06-Aug-14 09:32:01

Oh you poor thing. I understand MN has to be careful with such a sensitive topic but although I have never posted about anything near a serious and upsetting as your situation I admit I do chop and change the details of my life a little and I know other posters do too.

It is hard though as I know there have been trolls sick enough to post about bereavements and it has caused a lot of upset.

LittlePeaPod Wed 06-Aug-14 09:32:17

I didn't read the thread but this is awful. I am so sorry to ear about your loss. thanks

I hope the people that reported the thread read this and feel ashamed of themselves.

Aeroflotgirl Wed 06-Aug-14 09:32:45

Is there a miscarriage/baby loss section on mumsnet you could post on I wonder

Alisvolatpropiis Wed 06-Aug-14 09:35:07

op were you posting under this name or a different one?

Because the thread I read and commented on is still there. Did you get an email from MNHQ saying they would delete your thread? Just wondering if you perhaps got that email from them mentioning the reports and accidentally hid your thread which has led you to think it has been deleted!

ExcuseTypos Wed 06-Aug-14 09:35:12

I'm so sorry this has happened. I hope MNHQ realise their mistake and reinstate your

CentimeCentime Wed 06-Aug-14 09:36:21

oh, I'm posting under a different name, I just assumed the thread had been deleted too (as I had been blocked). Off to look for it...

LittlePeaPod Wed 06-Aug-14 09:37:06

There is a mc and grieving section.. Ut it still awful a that a grieving mother is treated this way. Disgraceful!

Alisvolatpropiis Wed 06-Aug-14 09:39:01

I've had issues logging in before and thought I'd been banned (I'd had a wrist slapping email) but it turned out I wasn't it was just a server thing.

I hope this turns out to be a misunderstanding op.

CentimeCentime Wed 06-Aug-14 09:41:03

Ah I found the post, thank you! thank you!

Saving all the responses in case it disappears.

I don't want to reply with this new name and explain myself, I want MN to let me post under my old name and give me my account back so I can reread and reply to the poster who messaged me bluesky

I'm really fucking upset

LinesThatICouldntChange Wed 06-Aug-14 09:42:07

I hope it turns out to be a misunderstanding.
I didn't see your original thread; however, I've regularly felt there is very little logic and certainly no consistency in which posts/ threads are zapped. MNHQ do have a policy but don't seem confident to apply it consistently.

Very sorry for your loss.

CentimeCentime Wed 06-Aug-14 09:43:04

nope just tried logging in with my original account - i've definitely been banned

Alisvolatpropiis Wed 06-Aug-14 09:44:31

I hope MNHQ get back to you asap, op. I can understand your upset completely.

BBQSteak Wed 06-Aug-14 09:46:55

so very sorry for your loss

shame on mnhq
they have form for this type of behaviour I'm afraid

I've lost count the amount of times, ive seen something like stillbirth n chat, and they have shunted the person off into bereavement

disgusting they are not replying to your emails

have you tried sands forum.
you will find people there that truly understand
and its more private too.

itiswhatitiswhatitis Wed 06-Aug-14 09:49:19

It would be unqualified I would think to be blocked but for the thread to remain in place so I really hope their has been a misunderstanding somewhere.

Is it worth reporting this thread to get mnhq's attention quicker?

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