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aibu to think you don't do this

(41 Posts)
makkahakka Wed 30-Jul-14 18:49:21

A mum went out for 3 hours with her younger kids, leaving her 13 yr old playing out without a key to get in. AIBU to think This is wrong?

Pheonixisrising Wed 30-Jul-14 18:52:03

We'll I wouldn't

SpringBreaker Wed 30-Jul-14 18:53:34

cant see anything wrong with that at all..

CoffeeTea103 Wed 30-Jul-14 18:54:25

It depends, was the 13 yo not expected to be home within the 3 hours and if she/he could get hold of the mum if need be then I see no problem.

Abra1d Wed 30-Jul-14 18:54:33

In this nice sunny weather I can't see a huge problem.

dobedobedo Wed 30-Jul-14 18:55:20

Maybe they were in contact via mobile. He's 13, I would have stayed out all day at that age. Unless the kid didn't know his mum was out, or didn't want to be left outside, YABU.

I'd probably leave a key, just in case if it were me though.

FrankSaysNo Wed 30-Jul-14 18:55:45

Depends. On many things.

ShatnersBassoon Wed 30-Jul-14 18:56:47

I don't know. I don't know the people or the arrangement.

Thomyorke Wed 30-Jul-14 18:56:56

Depends on the circumstances, trying to entertain DCs with big age gaps is hard especially when teenagers would rather be with their mates and generally are out for hours. I check mine has phone and key but he has still managed to go out without them. I do leave a key with a neighbour but this is meant to be emergency and no guarantee they would be in.

DiaDuit Wed 30-Jul-14 18:57:08

maybe you don't. others do. and that's ok.

Sleepybunny Wed 30-Jul-14 18:57:32

Hrmmm don't know. On the one hand it's something my mum would do frequently if I was playing out with friends in the other hand I won't do it to my DC.

ilovesooty Wed 30-Jul-14 18:58:18

Not enough information to judge one way
or the other.

One the face of it I can't see a problem if the 13 year old knew what was happening and when they'd return .

Interested to know how you're affected by it.

saintlyjimjams Wed 30-Jul-14 18:58:19

13 year old fine surely?

Dragonlette Wed 30-Jul-14 18:58:38

I've done it. I assumed for had her key, she didn't because she assumed I'd be at home. She stayed out in the garden she could have gone to a neighbour's but she was happy enough hanging about. She was only 12 the first time as well.

NorwaySpruce Wed 30-Jul-14 18:59:08

I'm sure a 13 year old would be able to cope for three hours.

Or are you about to drop the drip-feed of the century?

EveDallasRetd Wed 30-Jul-14 19:01:22

I don't see a problem, except maybe if the kid needed a wee - although I would assume they'd go to a friends house if they did.

macdoodle Wed 30-Jul-14 19:06:09

Mine sometimes goes out and forgets her key, she has plenty of places to go, and if I am at work, she can walk to me there. God at some stage they need to take/be given some responsibility.

Bowlersarm Wed 30-Jul-14 19:07:31

YANBU. I wouldn't.

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Wed 30-Jul-14 19:10:23

My mum used to go on holiday hmm

greeneggsandjam Wed 30-Jul-14 19:11:56

More info needed really. Seems fine on the face of it though.

Ragwort Wed 30-Jul-14 19:14:23

What exactly is wrong? Presumably the 13 year old knew the mother was out confused. I often do this - are you talking about me ? grin.

makkahakka Wed 30-Jul-14 19:14:55

Not trying to drip feed but The kid was moping around and kept coming back to the house, then hanging around outside for ages. Mum was somewhere that she would have not been able to have phone. None of my business really but felt sorry for the kid and wondered if iwbu to think it was wrong

CoffeeTea103 Wed 30-Jul-14 19:16:19

Yes that's a massive drip feed. Totally changes the post doesn't it hmm

DiaDuit Wed 30-Jul-14 19:19:26

would it have been an idea to include all useful information in the OP?

makkahakka Wed 30-Jul-14 19:22:07

Ok, so was a drip feed, sorry. So aibu?

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