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To anonymously report a colleague?

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BoldBlackCherry Wed 30-Jul-14 14:43:19

I've been in my new job 2 weeks.

It's a supermarket and local so I shop there too. One of the young guys who works on the Checkouts talks about drug use non stop. He talks to his mates who come into the shop about racking up lines after work, rolling joints and getting fucked on mdma. I can hear him clearly when I'm stacking the aisles so it's obvious customers hear it too. I've already told him and he just laughs. I think he thinks it's big and clever and makes him seem hard. It doesn't. He is embarrassing himself because he doesn't know what he is talking about, saying things like he needs to pick up needles for his coke and he drinks speed. It's absolute bollocks and I'm sick of listening to it.

It's the same in the staff room, other members of staff have commented on it and just laugh about him. I know someone has reported him to management and nothing was done about it.

I was thinking of writing an anonymous letter to the store manager, pretending to be a customer reporting him to see if anything will be done.

I'm sick of it and don't want to report myself because I'm new and don't want to be known as a grass or something similar. I'm not sure how close everyone is and what the set up is with the store.

Aibu? And what would you do in this situation?

MrsWinnibago Wed 30-Jul-14 14:44:56

I don't think reporting it quietly to the manager would get you labelled a "grass".

I think you should ask your supervisor for a private talk and tell them your concerns.

It's not exactly a mean thing to're helping the lad if anything...they won't sack him but will warn him and you won't be named.

Anewmeanewname Wed 30-Jul-14 14:52:01

I was thinking of writing an anonymous letter to the store manager, pretending to be a customer reporting him to see if anything will be done.

This would be a very, very bad idea. The fact that you are even considering this suggests that you are not thinking about this situation in a rational way. Talk to your supervisor/manager in the first instance and take it from there.

Littleturkish Wed 30-Jul-14 14:59:14

I can see why you think the letter would be a good idea, but I really think you need to formally raise it yourself with the manager. Be specific and write down what you've heard and when. The more detail you can give, the more they can do about it.

Vinomcstephens Wed 30-Jul-14 14:59:26

Anonymous letters should always be dealt with in just one way - straight into the bin. If you have a genuine concern, raise it with your manager in confidence.

MrsWinnibago Wed 30-Jul-14 15:14:26

An anonymous letter could actually get you sacked op.

externalwallinsulation Wed 30-Jul-14 15:23:50

He sounds a bit young and immature! However, if you come over as censorious to that, he'll take it as confirmation of how far out and wild he is (there's nothing teenagers and teenagers-at-heart like more than a bit of disapproval - confirms them as rebels).

Obviously, he's a bit of a wanker but I would just ignore it. If it bothers customers, then let them complain. Personally, it wouldn't worry me at all - I'd probably find it funny!

MorphineDreams Wed 30-Jul-14 15:44:16

Pick up needles for his coke? confused that can't be right. Unless he's talking about crack cocaine but you wouldn't usually be taking that with the likes of MDMA and whizz.

I would actually just wait until a customer complains. It'll happen eventually.

MorphineDreams Wed 30-Jul-14 15:45:09

You can drink speed btw. You can mix it with a drink, it's called 'whizzy water'

<toddles off>

Koothrapanties Wed 30-Jul-14 15:51:06

Why exactly would an anonymous letter be such a had idea or even get the op sacked?

I would probably talk to the manager, but I don't think the letter is the worst idea in the world.

thatstoast Wed 30-Jul-14 15:53:28

I'd be surprised if the manager didn't already know, but it is likely that he doesn't care. So I would just ignore him on the basis that reporting him wouldn't accomplish anything. If you feel you have to report it don't write an anonymous letter. That's just ridiculous.

SqueakySqueak Wed 30-Jul-14 15:53:56

I was thinking of writing an anonymous letter to the store manager, pretending to be a customer reporting him to see if anything will be done.

So basically, your boss said it's fine and you're stamping your feet to get your way... You sound just as immature as he does.

Just write the letter from yourself. You don't even know if he was reported. Never trust rumors.

MrsWinnibago Wed 30-Jul-14 15:53:57

I think it's bad Panties because it's impersonating a disgruntled customer! It's wasting staff time....pretending to be a complainant who does not exist is a bad idea because you're lying on paper!

MrsWinnibago Wed 30-Jul-14 15:54:32

Squeak her boss hasn't said it's fine...where did you get that from?

NorwaySpruce Wed 30-Jul-14 15:54:32

There is something deeply, deeply unpleasant about anonymous notes.

And something worse about outright lies, and pretending to be someone you are not.

You've been there 2 weeks. Talk to the managers, and if they do nothing, so be it.

No need at all for the underhand cloak and dagger stuff. You sound way worse than the guy you have such an issue with.

SqueakySqueak Wed 30-Jul-14 15:59:24


"I know someone has reported him to management and nothing was done about it."

She's basically upset that someone already told and managers haven't done anything, so she's going to pose as a customer to see if that has a bigger impact. It's basically, the boss doesn't see it as a deal, so she's going to try and make it a deal, by being deceptive.

Why pose as a customer? You can write an anonymous letter from staff without lying. Really, they'd probably think it was the original complainer.

Another thing is she doesn't even know if that's true. They could just say someone reported him and in reality that never happened. She's new and going on hearsay.

SpeedofSound0 Wed 30-Jul-14 16:03:09

Do you have any family or friends who shop at your store?

Have they ever overheard this idiot talking like this?
If the answer to both questions is yes, get them to email the supermarket head office, or phone the customer service team at head office. They then take it up with the store's general manager.

MorphineDreams Wed 30-Jul-14 16:08:00

I just think if you're going to make a complaint, do it maturely and properly instead of hiding behind an anonamous letter.

I highly doubt the original report was ignored, the manager probably spoke to the person, but with little proof they could hardly sack the person.

But a second report of his behaviour could go towards getting him reprimanded or dismissed.

MorphineDreams Wed 30-Jul-14 16:08:10

anonamous? anonymous.

SiennaBlake Wed 30-Jul-14 16:12:07

I'd leave it. Why cause trouble for yourself two weeks in? If anything happens, the other staff will know it was you and that'll be it for your entire time there for the sake of someone talking too loudly. He will get in trouble eventually. Just leave him to it.

JennyOnTheBlocks Wed 30-Jul-14 16:13:51

So, let me get this straight . . .

A young member of staff is telling lies about stories of illegal substance use, and you know they are made up, that he doesn't know what he's talking about.

You want the manager to do what, exactly?

Just tell him he sounds like a bell-end and to change the subject.

Pumpkinpositive Wed 30-Jul-14 16:22:17

If I had only been in a job two weeks, nothing short of young master publicly shooting up in the vegetable aisle would induce me to start writing poison pen letters, anonymous or otherwise.


Thenapoleonofcrime Wed 30-Jul-14 16:32:23

Why is this your business? You are not responsible for him, there have been no incidents beyond youthful boasting, and he's been reported once to management anyway so if they wanted to issue a warning they could.

Faking complaints when there haven't been any complaints is weird.

If you work alongside lots of different types of people in a store, you will have to rub along with people who hold very different views and live life differently than you. It's just not your business at all.

ilovesooty Wed 30-Jul-14 16:50:39

I wouldn't go down the impersonating a customer route but behaviour like this brings the store into disrepute. Speak to your line manager about it but don't say that you think he's already been treported as that's hearsay.

KnackeredMuchly Wed 30-Jul-14 20:46:27

Ask a friend or family member to overhear it then they can report it ?

It would drive me bonkers.

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