To feel I am the only person who will never inherit anything?(391 Posts)
I have a pack of grips somewhere......
You have a flat so you have more than some people. How about you stop comparing your own 'lack of inheritance fortune' to others in your circle and be grateful for what you do have.
My mum has a house but I hope she makes the most of her life and would be happy for her to use equity release in her old age if she needs some cash. I couldn't care less if she has nothing to leave behind as long as she enjoys her life.
no one is guaranteed an inheritance, parents may go into care and it all be taken in fees or they could just leave it to charity?
Lots of elderley people are in rented housing and this is usually the biggest asset.
I have told my Mum to enjoy her cash now and spend what she wants as she has a superb pension and she is doing just that! She did give me and my 2 siblings �500 each recently as a treat - said she had too much money and didn't know what to spend it on!
remember too that IHT is paid above �300,000 ish so HMRC get their share too, better to try and give it away earlier IMO
YANBU OP, I completely empathise.
It's especially difficult when you have the insight (as you clearly do) to recognise that you are being a bit grasping, but to feel bitterness and envy nevertheless.
Lots of people will tell you not to moan, as there are others that have it worse - just ignore them. Is it reasonable to say that you can never feel happiness just because somebody else has just found true love and won the lottery in the same week? Of course not, and by the same token, just because there are people worse off than you, it doesn't invalidate your own feelings.
I'm set to inherit a foul mouthed (beaked?) bad tempered, noisy Macaw and a neurotic whippet who is madder than a box of frogs.
Both of those things mean far more to me than property ever will.
There is every chance my dad will be well enough to care for the whippet until the end of her days, however she is only young and he has lots of health issues. The bird is only 20, he'll live for another 40-60 years or more.
Yes. This sounds grasping. It's not up to your parents to provide you with 'enormous cash support' well into adulthood (they did enough of that as they raised you), nor is it up to them to come up with what honestly sounds like a 'dowry' to make you look more attractive to potential partners. You don't get 'rewarded' for getting through life, ffs.
If other people have been left whacking great inheritances, good for them. In my experience, it's hardly the norm, and it doesn't affect your quality of life other than seemingly turning you a funny shade of green and causing you to stamp your foot on here like an entitled brat. Now THAT is off-putting to potential future partners.
Neither of my parents have a pot to piss in. Mum in a council house and dad lives with my stepmum (and the house is in her name). There are 5 of us and nothing to inherit means no squabbling over division of assets!
Better to have worked your arse off to get where you are and know you did it yourself rather than rely on handouts.
I won't inherit anything either OP. Can't say I have given it much thought tbh... Just posting to let you know you are not the only one.
We have a fair bit of money - not through inheritance - but it's made me more miserable than I can say for reasons I won't go into here. Just try and enjoy the hand life dealt you.
Wish I could follow my own advice.
The only things I will inherit is coronary artery disease and an awful wrinkle at the side of my mouth but do I care? Not a jot! I see my DM eating out weekly and getting her hair cut and coloured monthly and I am more than happy for her to spending at leasure rather than worrying what I can get my greedy little hands on.
You don't know what life will throw at you, stop thinking about what could be and what others have and live for the now. Your OWN now.
Sorry op but you sound awful.
My Ddad died several years ago and my DM died this April.
The big chunk of cash Dsis and I are going to inherit between us?
Couldn't give a fuck and I'd heartily live in a hovel should that be how I'd get both of them back.
Sorry, you have hit a very raw nerve.
I have an idea. If you want to increase your quality of life, how about YOU make some decisions about how to do that rather than expect someone else to hand it to you. You do sound very graspy and i dont actually sympathise at all with your 'plight'. If you arent happy with your level of income or quality of life that is all down to the decisions YOU have made and nothing to do with 'bad decisions' your parents made.
There is a cheesy saying that's quite appropriate here. "Dont wait to see the light, get up and turn it on yourself"
Ffs! You really think the majority of people get an inheritance? And that your parents/family isnt normal because they' have nothing to leave you? Are you serious? Where do you live?
My parents have offered me naff all financial and precious little emotional support thus far. My Dad walked away when I was ten, he has money aplenty, my Mum I am currently estranged from, I imagine she will leave her money carefully elsewhere.
I am far sadder at not having a relationship with loving parents than at any monetary funds failing to come my way, I have friends who have had quite corking inheritances, some who will not, that's just the way the cookie crumbles.
I think dwelling on this will make you very bitter.
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