I've been with DH for 19 years, married for 7.
PIL live about 4-5 hours away and don't really do travelling (pets), so we visit them 3-4 times a year. Our relationship is fine, DH isn't massively close to his parents, but we all get along OK.
We have 3 DCs, youngest is coming up to a year old. Gradually, my MIL smokes more and more in the house (her own mum used to live with them and didn't know my MIL smoked. Since my DHs nan has passed away, MIL now smokes everywhere in the house).
The smoke has always bothered me, we always come back smelling of fags. Even the baby Grobags. Guess I've got to the age now where I can't be bothered to just happily accept it. It's her house, totally and utterly, but I no longer want to stay there or bring the kids back stinking of fags.
At Christmas, we stayed in a B and B down the road. We spent the whole days in their house, but headed off about 7/8pm and returned the following morning. I would like to do this again. It just felt that we all got some smoke free air overnight, which made the whole experience much nicer.
DH hasn't been honest with his mum, just says it's about space (sort of falls flat on its face, as they have 2 spare bedrooms), being easier for them etc. however, this time, his mum has said "I'd be really upset if you don't stay with us". DH doesn't feel as strongly as me about the smoke, it doesn't bother him that much.
AIBU to ask DH that we don't stay there?
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To not stay at PILs because of MILs smoking
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sheeplikessleep · 21/07/2014 22:50
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