My DD is 7. I was a single parent from pregnancy until she was three years old without any help or support, so we are extremely close. When I met DP, and subsequently DP met her, they both got on very well and were both happy for him to play a fatherly role in her life, as was I. We have since had a DS together, who is now 20 months. I am a SAHM so obviously I have DS all day. When DP comes home from work he'll greet DS but go off to chat to/play with DD rather than occupy DS while I'm cooking.
If we go to the park he'll follow DD to push her on the swings (even though she doesn't need help) rather than play with DS, he is always left to/with me even though DD and I have both openly said to him that we'd like to spend more time together because currently DS takes up all my time. If my DSC are over, he's very protective of DD if they are horrible to her, which is nice of course but I find it strange that he favours her and spending time with her over his three biological DC.
DD was in a ballet performance last weekend. I suggested we go separately (there were two performances) as it'd be boring for DS and we have no other childcare. DP insisted we all go together. After half hour or so, DS was getting restless and DP kept saying 'does he need to go out?', at the mention of which DS was frantically nodding and trying to head for the door. I said 'he will think he can go out now you've said it, yes' and DP just shrugged and carried on watching, expecting me to go with DS and miss DDs performance!
This morning there was a 'walk to school and get breakfast with parents and headteacher' morning. We live over two miles away so have to leave early and DS was up a lot last night with a cold so I said to DP, who was off work, that DS could do with staying in bed rather than being woken to go. When I went downstairs he had his shoes on ready to go with DD, presuming it'd be me staying with DS!
AIBU to be annoyed that I'm getting sidelined from my own DDs life and that his DC are left feeling second best?
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powersquawker · 09/07/2014 22:17
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