Brief history:
Dh and I booked our wedding 6 years ago, and I asked my dsis to be Matron of honour. Dh said he would like sil to be a bridesmaid, which was fine. Both were asked, and accepted.
Then fil fell ill, and we bought the wedding forward a year, and cancelled the big wedding in favour of a quick to organise registry office. Sadly it was all in vain and fil passed away in the early hours of the morning of our wedding.
We went ahead with the ceremony, but not the reception, and it was a pretty somber affair. Sil understandably did not attend, mil and my dsis were witnesses, then we all went home in tears.
Fast forward 5 years, dh and I are renewing our vows abroad in a couple of months, and are hoping this will be a much happier occasion. (We were originally planning a family holiday, then noticed we could add on the wedding package for around 1k and thought "let's do it")
We now have dd, sil has an 18mo dd, both are flower girls along with my two nieces.
Mil has just called, to say Sil is badgering her to ask me when we are going dress shopping. I assume she means for the Children and explain I am buying them on the internet.
Then mil exclaimed that as we had originally asked sil, we were duty bound to honour it. It wasn't her fault that fil died, she'd lost out on being bridesmaid because if it, and would be devastated to be uninvited.
My issues are:
- I can't have sil without reinstating my dsis,
- 4 is too many already (but couldn't not have any of them)
- Cost. 4 flower girl dresses will probably be at least £100, plus shoes, hair gumf and flowers etc
Aibu to think her bridesmaid ship has sailed and stick to my plans?
(Sil is 26 and has been bridesmaid at least twice already btw)