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To think it’s insensitive for slim people to talk about how fat they are around fat people?

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treesandbirdsandbees Tue 24-Jun-14 21:14:21

Today at work a group of women were talking about how they’re all starting a diet because they are all ‘getting so fat and disgusting’ and how they can’t possibly get any bigger because they’d be embarrassed to leave the house and one of them who is single was saying she’d never meet a man if she was any bigger because no men ‘would ever find a fattie attractive’.

None of them are over a size 10

I am overweight. I am trying to lose it and it is gradually reducing but slowly and I know it’s my problem and other people shouldn’t moderate their conversation because of it but am I being unreasonable to think it’s insensitive to go on about it so much and make such offensive comments around people who really are overweight?

I don’t think it was aimed at me or that they were trying to be nasty but it made me feel uncomfortable as if that’s what they think of people who are overweight then it must be what they think of me.

Whocares156 Sun 29-Jun-14 16:13:07

More like someone saying life without children is pointless to someone who is childless. And yes that would also be rude and insensitive.

Are people not allowed to say this in the presence of someone childless? Is it necessary to check everybody's marital status, weight issues, whether they have children or not before saying anything?

Jenbob80 Sun 29-Jun-14 16:21:27

Things like this are all relative. It does sound like they were being a bit insensitive, but probably not deliberately hurtful. I would try to put them out of your mind if you can. It doesn't sound like they have very positive body images about themselves.

splendide Sun 29-Jun-14 20:47:32

Yes they are allowed to whocares but it would be rude.

Whocares156 Sun 29-Jun-14 21:10:34

Rude to post? Did MNHQ ban it?

Whocares156 Sun 29-Jun-14 21:11:13

Oops sorry wrong thread!

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